You just understand how a conversation more easily progresses and get annoyed when others don't/don't make the appropriate efforts. I don't feel like it's weird, or negative at its core, but I do think it's important to remember not everyone is so aware and conversationally competent, and they're not doing it on purpose or necessarily because they don't care that much, but simply because they're ignorant. Idk. 🤷
i mean conversations are usually devoid of references, which is why i think it sticks out so much. if i'm in a reference-heavy conversation i'm most likely talking to them about a niche topic where knowledge of references, and therefore the basis of those references, is assumed. maybe i'm subconsciously judging them as "not in the know"?
this is obviously stream-of-conscience, but... am i mentally gatekeeping people?
Join an improv group. That's like their whole thing.
everything i see about improv groups is usually forced improv, where the "yes and" is taken literally (as in added to every sentence) and it's really cringe-inducing.
also it's not really a thing here.
In My experience allists often lack the social skills to engage in the normal give and take of a conversation. That's why they rely so much on small talk to keep a conversation going when neither participant has anything interesting to say.
Do you have any interest in tabletop RPGs? Because you sound like you have the instincts to be a good DM/GM.
i've dm'ed some oneshots that didn't really go well. i think i lack the structure.
I have similar trouble. Maybe check out Paranoia XP it's got a mission structure built into the session prep.
Not all IRL conversations are like online threads that continue with jokes until the thread becomes its own thing. Also context…? Memes and references are ok but it’s more a reflection of your brain and memory and how you are interpreting the information in front of you. Not all people hear something and return the most relevant reference, they might care more about person experiences or stories that are OC and not copy pasta they have seen before, hence the “I see what you did there” responses you get.
that's a fair take. it could be learned behaviour from uni, where every sentence was a joke.
it could also stem from an unwillingness to share personal stuff, i guess.
Share a story, ask a question, or start a conversation about (almost) anything you desire. Maybe you'll make some friends in the process.
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