This started on Sunday. My mom was nagging me nonstop about stuff I already knew, and I told her that I understood what she was saying, but that I’m tired of her constant accusations that I’m not doing well enough (For example she’s always on my ass to stop communicating with my coach apparently it annoys him, yet at the same time, she keeps telling me to communicate with him more). I just wish she would stick to one thing and not change the subject every five seconds.
She told me that if I wanted to cut her out of my life, that it was a big decision, but she would be fine with it. To be clear, I NEVER said that I wanted her out of my life, I simply said that I wanted her to stop coddling me because it was causing me to be unsuccessful. All my friends for myself, so why shouldn’t I? I’m an adult now, after all. I still love and am in touch with my mom, I just told her to stop nagging me about things that I already know.
Today is day three of no nagging, and this week has gone phenomenally well. On Monday, I had great engagement in a class that my mother insisted I wouldn’t because she assumed it wasn’t my place and I needed tutoring (This is not true at all and my grade in there is good). Whenever my mom nag me about it, I was not motivated to do well. On Monday, however, I engaged the best that I have all semester.
On Tuesday, I engaged well in another class. After that class, however, I had a huge milestone moment. For the first time, I went grocery shopping on my own accord, and used my own money to pay for them. I walked there and back as it was only about a half mile each way. This is such a huge milestone for me as I have never gone grocery shopping on my own before, yet alone, even wanted to. This is a huge skill that I have just mastered, and I’m so proud of myself for that.
Today, I again did really well in my classes, and managed to accept feedback from a classmate on a speech I’m writing. The last time I received feedback, somebody said something offensive and I got really upset, so staying calm in this situation was huge.
Just wanted to mention the good side of Autism within the bad.