Therapists will also give a consultation and you should take them.up on that. When I was looking for one, I asked each one if they considered themselves a political therapist, if they said yes, I flat out asked if they were a Marxist. I ended up having to choose between therapists that were active in PSL and Land back. Consult as many therapists as you like, it gives you a chance to see what it feels like to talk to them and what their values are. The most important thing is how comfortable they are to talk to.

Online is fine and great as far as I'm concerned

is the online kind worth trying

Going to find that out today and I’ll get back to you. I do know the one I’m using is a $20 copay but $250 of you don’t show or cancel with less than 24 hours notice. I’m really happy that they have weekend and evening hours tho.

psychologytoday.com

You can filter by unpublished criteria, like religion, if the clinician has a disability themselves, if they're part of the queer community, etc.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us

This is where most therapists post their ads. You can filter by types of therapy (CBT, DBT, etc), specialties, and insurance they accept. Online is fine but don't use shit like BetterHelp, find a real therapist that isn't going to scam you.

It’s all worth trying depending on your circumstances. I prefer in person, but it’s up to you. Find someone licensed. That’s key.

Also key: the number one determining factor in the success of therapy is trust. If you trust your therapist (and if they’re trustworthy), therapy can and will help you. If you don’t trust them, it doesn’t matter what they do.

If you're US based, and depending on your insurance situation, your insurance provider may have an online tool to search for a therapist that is either local to do in person, or is remote but it's certified to provide services in your state.

Online/remote sessions are better than nothing. However, I didn't have much success with services like TalkSpace. I had a better experience when I found a provider through my insurance that was licensed in my state. We met regularly over Zoom, he was based in Arizona and I was in California at the time.

It's important that you get along and feel comfortable with your therapist. If after the first couple of sessions something doesn't feel right or you just aren't clicking with that person, find someone else that checks the boxes to make you comfortable. Don't settle for mediocre.

This is also good in addition to psychology today:

https://www.goodtherapy.org/

Use “sliding scale” as a search term and you might be able to find someone who charges their fee based on income. MFT’s have an ethical obligation to have a few discount slots in private practice.

I can't speak for you but it can help to establish a relationship face-to-face before going online

Online therapy has privacy and data security issues.

Your regular doctor might be able to do a referral; they usually have a list of local options.