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The move with those meetup groups is to identify the non weirdos on day 1 and get exclusive asap
It's important to remember that a lot of 4chan lingo has been normalised, and "normies" will often use terms common on 4chan, so sometimes people who are just grill-pilled libs will repeat things that sound like a 4channer, but they aren't. I don't know if this is your circumstance though, but people will say shitty things all the fucking time, that nihilist patheticness is completely normalised at this point.
An alternative way to look at it could be something like this: If a group of pathetic fash losers are a part of the group and you leave because of them, they have free reign to poison the minds of the rest of the group. If you're there, you can talk to the other members about that stuff and make it clear that it isn't acceptable, don't phrase it as an "us vs them" and demand they get kicked out of the group, because libs hate confrontation way more than they hate fash. Just treat like the pathetic loser talk that it is, that only the saddest and most pathetic people behave like that. This does require you to stand up to that stuff but also be delicate about it, they will try to make it seem like you are the troublemaker, always "starting fights" and they will gang up on you, and you can't expect the libs in the group to have your back. But eventually you can get the fash to either leave the group or just form a new group with the cool people in the original group. It's hard work and it sucks when you just want to tune out and chill out, but unfortunately as their rhetoric gets more and more normalised, we have to stand up to it more and more.
This was basically my plan with the most recent group, it's what I always do - fascists (especially 4chan nerds) generally lack social skills, so in my experience it's relatively easy to socially undermine them and form a "coalition" of sorts that is willing to either exclude or outright confront them.
What I'm venting about in this post is specifically the drastically increased commonality of having to deal with this sort of situation in general, and the fact that having to deal with it so much more frequently than I used to means that a lot of the time... it's simply not worth the effort.
Yeah, it's rough, making new friends and meeting new people really shouldn't be this much of a minefield. 
Not saying this is a be all end all but I just physically threaten people like that. Occasionally had to punch a person. I feel for you. I do not have many friends but the ones that stick around me are the real ones.
Not all of these situations are physical ones, though I was going to begin work to socially undermine the fascists in the most recent instance of this happening, the group fell apart before I could even set about it.
Either way, it sucks to have to go to such extremes as physical aggression or interpersonal espionage, when you're just trying to enjoy something. Sucks to the degree of making it not even worth engaging at all, depending on enthusiasm for, and interest in, the hobby.
this post was submitted on 14 Sep 2025
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