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[-] [email protected] 8 points 17 hours ago

We had birthday ear pullings :D

[-] [email protected] 6 points 16 hours ago

A tradition alive and well in certain groups of adults.

[-] [email protected] 30 points 21 hours ago

My husband was mildly horrified when he learned I got birthday spankings as a kid. It was all in good fun and among friends/family as an elementary schooler, definitely NOT from people at school, lol.

I don’t know if this was just a tradition in my family, but it also involved being picked up by two people at your wrists and ankles and swung back and forth while a third person spanked you (hence why it was only done to fairly young kids). Explaining this to my husband didn’t help either!

[-] [email protected] 29 points 19 hours ago
[-] [email protected] 16 points 19 hours ago

😂 It wasn’t as fucked up as I’m making it sound, I swear! We were always screaming with laughter the entire time it was happening, and if anyone had actually been upset by it they would have stopped immediately. I’d put it in the same tier as being tickled.

[-] [email protected] 8 points 19 hours ago

It sounds like it was probably like getting thrown over your parent's shoulder and hung upside-down, but it certainly is more extreme

[-] [email protected] 24 points 19 hours ago

I don’t know if this was just a tradition in my family, but it also involved being picked up by two people at your wrists and ankles and swung back and forth while a third person spanked you (hence why it was only done to fairly young kids).

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