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The original was posted on /r/tifu by /u/babyv85ix on 2025-07-10 17:06:07+00:00.

This was about a month ago. One of my coworkers (F30s) was leaving our company and we threw a potluck send-off. She’d gained a little weight recently, no one said anything, obviously, but I, in my infinite dumbassery, thought it would be funny to say something like:

“So, are you leaving because you’re having a secret baby or what?”

She went dead silent. I tried to laugh it off, but she looked genuinely horrified. She pulled me aside and told me, quietly, that she had a miscarriage a few weeks prior, and it wasn’t something she’d been able to talk about with anyone at work.

I felt like I’d been punched in the stomach.

I apologized profusely, and she said she knew I didn’t mean harm, but that it was really painful to hear. I still think about that moment and wish I could take it back.

TL;DR: Joked about a coworker being pregnant at her farewell party, not knowing she’d had a miscarriage. Horribly misjudged and still feel like shit.