At least where I’m from it’s pretty well known that girls outperform boys in school, probably because their brains develop slightly faster in some ways useful to perform in a class room.

At least where I'm from, it's pretty well know that the education system is better suited to girls than boys because it badly needs a reform, and that studies show that separating boys and girls greatly improves the attainment of boys whilst also making modest improvement for girls. It's as if combining boys and girls in the name of politically-correct inclusion actually had a detrimental effect on the actual outcome of schooling.

This could give women a head start and very well lead to them on average performing better in work life, until they are forced to choose between careers and families while they partners continue to advance their careers at full speed not worrying about being pregnant.

To paraphrase this: women can get pregnant and then can't work and it's the man's fault. I thinks someone's watched too much Handmaid's Tale

It sure isn't the extreme and aggressive pandering to feminism that gives women a "head start" just because they're women and not because they're the best for the job (such as all the women-only startups, the women-only software teams, the grants given to the above because they're women-only), but because they're better educated, right?

we should stop pretending language models make intelligent considerations about anything.

LLMs trained on the texts we produce create the opposite bias of what we observe in society

So you're actually stating that LLMs are making dumb decisions by recommending women over men. And they're your observations, from your model of the world, framed as you want. What I observe in society is a huge increase in the amount of advertising aimed at women with a feminist message because women are being programmed to flock to such messages (to buy products), whilst ironically conditioning them and giving them entitlement to claim anything they want, because, they're women.

Given the actual reality, this shows how extreme the bias against men in current literature really is and it isn't surprising that LLMs are recommending women over men given all the noise about how women are vastly superior to men.

If I were a woman concerned about equality, I think I'd be having an epiphany about now, and using this as an example of how bad things are and that they need to change.