Set em, let em be known. Evaluate offenders: ignorance, disrespect, necessity? I think they can be "soft" which I guess is sort of against the idea. I think in life we need to be flexible though. I guess this is all to say - it's good to know yourself and your needs. You are absolutely welcome to leave spaces that oppress you. Not all oppression spheres can be ignored, and instead must be handled. Not all boundary breakers are oppressive, sometimes things must be met regardless of feelings. Sometimes people break things because they forget (a simple example is dead-naming which I think can happen with people accidentally - it's sort of an extreme example but it's what came to mind). Sometimes you need to meet people half-way because that's just life. You can find a way to honor other people's boundaries while honoring your own. Thanks for asking, although it felt like it was sort of out of left field =P!