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Like, why does a gym attract so many dickheads. I'm just there minding my own damn business when I overhear dudes talking about how they are 'going to get so much pussy for lifting' and whatever dumb shit. It's a constant stream of male garbage coming from all around you. My fault for not wearing headphones I guess.

Is that why you lift? Really? Are most gym bros just terminally insecure man children? Fucking hell man. Who unironically talks like that? I know I'm probably in a bubble as a sober, vegan communist but still.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 hours ago

From my experience no, most gymbros are decent IMO. It's just the younger ones that are more into that, well at least on my country. > 25yo gymbros/gymsis mostly talk about their job, although i have been guilty of admiring my gymcrush. Like 95% of my talk with my partner is about being tired from job lol

[–] [email protected] 6 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago) (1 children)

the western world, especially anglos, have a bizarre relationship with health and fitness. like others have said, the focus has been from increasing health to image, something these people are obsessed with. this is why i prefer to workout at home, this capitalist way of thinking is prevalent everywhere but at its worst at the gym.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

Perhaps we can link the fascistic nature of purity culture in the west to the vapid, egocentric gym culture?

[–] [email protected] 5 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

yes, this is true. you see in short form videos "you must consume x amount of this" or "you must do x workout this many times", it's why you see so many clones wearing the same gear parroting the same stuff may sometimes even have an adverse effect on health.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago)

Defo, makes me glad I ditched protein shakes a while ago, a study found that far too many have a heavy metal concentration worth being concerned about... I remember hearing RFK Jr's team defunded the team that held a study confirming that... so yeah :/

[–] [email protected] 6 points 7 hours ago

Are most gym bros just terminally insecure man children?

Yes sadly, right wing media apparatus targeted men's fitness pretty hard around 2016, barely any progress has been made to decouple the two :(

[–] [email protected] 15 points 16 hours ago

They also tend to uhh, put down people who are overweight for trying to excersize. Im not a very strong person, but I had to restrain myself from attempting to knock two people the fuck out for saying "look at that loser" to someone who was working out at the gym.

[–] [email protected] -3 points 7 hours ago (5 children)

Threads like this make it really obvious as to why the right wing has so much success pulling men in, when the left criticizes all of them for wanting to just be fit. It's pretty well known this mentality is due to right wing propaganda yet here is another thread of "all men that go to gyms are just dumb assholes." Again we devolve into attacking the people instead of the system that causes this. Let's not do anything to build up a healthy masculinity on the left. Let's just berate them and drive them further to the right. It's hilarious how easy we make the rights job for them.

Leftists: "Why gym bros driven to the right?"

Also leftists: "Hey let's have another entire thread calling men stupid, vanity driven, sexist assholes for stepping foot near a gym."

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 hour ago

This is a ridiculously defensive response that doesn't reflect the discussion in this thread at all. Read The Will to Change by bell hooks

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 hours ago

can you describe your view of what a "healthy masculinity" looks like

[–] [email protected] 8 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago)

Nobody is criticizing men for wanting to be fit. I actively encourage them to do so. However, an urge to be fit does not necessary means you have to become an misogynistic asshole. You build positive masculinity by revealing the fascist nature many gym bros currently have and offer an alternative.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 6 hours ago

when the left criticizes all of them for wanting to just be fit.

Who here is criticizing men specifically for wanting to be fit? Point to the comments in question, let's see it.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 6 hours ago

That's not at all what's happening here lmao

[–] [email protected] 39 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

Are most gym bros just terminally insecure man children?

Most men are terminally insecure man children...

[–] [email protected] 5 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

Patriarchy really did a number on the human race

[–] [email protected] 5 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

Yea it kinda did…

The idea that dying in war or from incurable illnesses at a manufacturing job makes us manly men didn’t leave much space for emotional maturity.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago)

Its completely a disaster I agree, plus anger is the only socially accepted emotion for men to have. Its so strange, sadly it will take a long time for equity between the sexes to bring equality but I do have hope because as much as the fascists in the west want us to believe the world is ending, it is not, just theirs is, and thats okay

[–] [email protected] 27 points 23 hours ago (2 children)

going to get so much pussy for lifting

Body dysmorphia is rampant amongst gym bros. Not getting laid is the driving force. Internet market delivers toxic results. Also, yes dudes can be that dumb.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 16 hours ago

In a loving, longterm relationship, still feel terrible about my body image even though I'm in the best shape of my life, shit hurts

[–] [email protected] 8 points 22 hours ago

dudes rock bc they dumb as rocks, fr fr

[–] [email protected] 18 points 22 hours ago

This is why I go to planet fitness and workout with old people

[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 day ago

I know I’m probably in a bubble as a sober, vegan communist but still.

I mean yeah. It's a good bubble to be in, if one is going to have to be in a bubble, but there is a lot of reactionary bullshit out there...

It's weird to be aware and to be trying to do something about it, and also live within that stuff. Reminds of the following line from when I was trying to read through: https://en.prolewiki.org/wiki/Library:No_Free_Left

E. M. S. Namboodiripad found a flaw in Ningal Enne Communistakki. The characters, he wrote in 1954, "are puppets with no relationship to living communist activists." Where are the voices of the dalits, the adivasis, the worker and the peasants, the heart of the communist movement? Thoppil Bhasi, Namboodiripad felt, had not adequately addressed the struggle to become a communist which often runs through several phases – fighting one's circumstances, certainly, but then the break with established ideologies, ability to find activities to do to contribute to the struggle while living in this world. In close-knit communities at the nether end of the social order survival is an anxious business and social humiliation is a constant hindrance. The communists who emerge out of these worlds are often talented and bright – those who could make lucrative careers and could be the shining lights of their communities. Yet, they chose to go to the trenches of political battle. They refuse to leave their world, but in adopting the transformative social agenda of communism they remain within at a curious distance – unwilling to conform to conservative social trends. What Namboodiripad seemed to indicate is that communists live a double reality – fighting against this world to make a better future, and living in this world within one's social order. To inhabit the present and the future is a stern burden on a communist. None of this comes out in the art on communism – too middle class in its orientation, only able to see the Maoists or the communists as figures of romance. It makes it so much easier to disdain them when the romance fades.

(bold emphasis mine)

And I would add, unlike the concept of a cult and other formations that emphasize a sense of superiority as a justification for being outside the norm, communism has no such mental buffer exactly? Instead, there is I think more of a humbling going on and an uncovering of scientific ruggedness in existence that might otherwise be more softened or hidden by fanciful ideologies of elitism and false promises. It is like you are seeing the raw nerve endings of society and watching as a steady diet of fast food is paved over with running a lot (figuratively speaking). But you can't simply pretend you exist outside it and act from a safe vantage point. You're in it even as you try to change it and are awash in its influences on you.

Idk if that makes sense, but I'm trying to get at something that is hard for me to put into words.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 1 hour ago) (1 children)

I have a theory: Just do sports, don’t lift, at least not as your main form of exercise. I have always felt that women can somehow smell it on the guys, I dunno.

The funny thing is that while most male Americans (and increasingly Westerners in general) are fat (which isn’t attractive to most straight women) the maximum body for getting the ladyfolk is not that much muscle and you should be slightly underweight but not shredded.

The biggest thing about a great physique for attracting mates is confidence, and for men, the toxic gym culture ends up creating a really fucked up body dysmorphia. I worked at the university gym during college and let me tell you the bizarre things I heard… like some guy refusing to go ask a woman out that was sending him all the signs of attraction because he was too embarrassed that his calf muscles were too small or upset that his lats weren’t looking better.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 7 hours ago

I heard like some guy refusing to go ask a woman out that was sending him all the signs of attraction because they were embarrassed that their calf muscles were too small or upset that their lats weren’t looking better.

She dodged a nuke ngl

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 day ago

Yeah a lot of gym bros do it for vanity nowadays and the rise of steroid usage proves it. It’s disappointing to see the route mainstream fitness has taken nowadays but it was to be expected in a capitalist society.

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