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As posted about recently in [email protected] and [email protected] it seems that @[email protected]'s stance on transphobia has not changed and his apology only seems to be that he was sorry he got caught and that someone leaked the DM. This is concerning for an admin of Lemmy.ml and the leader of the project. I don't think this means we should stop using Lemmy, it's open-source and even if they embed donation links, they can be stripped out in our fork. But it does make me wonder if we should consider defederating lemmy.ml on that merit. Since if they hold such views on trans issues, it's very likely they won't have any desire to act on that type of transphobia being expressed on their instance.

I know that Lemmy.ml has and does handle overt transphobia well, but I can't speak to their ability to handle less overt or thinly veiled transphobia, and this incident doesn't inspire much confidence either.

Edit: Since some people haven't seen the original. I decided to include it here. Warning, it contains transphobia, if you don't want to see that, don't open the spoiler.

CW: Transphobic talking points

I'd really like to hear Feedback from Blahaj's local community on this, I'm not as interested in outside opinions here so please try to refrain from top-level commenting if you aren't from lemmy.blahaj.zone (I will ignore them if you comment anyway from a remote instance).

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[–] [email protected] 50 points 2 days ago (7 children)

Multiple states: "Let's literally use the force of law to ban trans people from existing."

This jackoff: "Hmmm, I just don't know if the bourgeoisie is really against trans rights! It's so hard to tell!"

I'm not going to weigh in on the defederation issue. I don't use enough .ml communities to know how this guy's views reflect in the moderation policies of the instance. But fuck him in particular.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (2 children)

Generally .ml is pretty trans rights, because their mods are hexbear alts.

This is just petty splitter bullshit, same as always...

But I also block .ml because their mods policies annoy me.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

ml is pretty trans rights, because their mods are hexbear alt

Hexbear has had its fair share of issues with sexism and objectification of trans women. There was a pretty big upset a while ago where people spoke up about being harassed, the community's reaction to it was pretty shitty.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 hours ago

That's ironic considering a lot of them said that sexism and allowing chasers is what led them to hexbear, and why they avoided blahaj.

Not saying what they're saying is true.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 2 days ago (1 children)

My experience is that hexbear only care about trans rights when criticizing "west". As soon as China or Russia are discussed, they turn surprisingly silent.

YMMV

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 2 days ago

seen a couple of TERFs get bullied off of my fedi TLs lately and it warms my heart

[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 days ago (1 children)

yea let's defederate.

somthin somthin terf-tankie-whatevr... somthin along those lines... i dun evn kno whad those words mean

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago
  • TERF = Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminists (transphobia)
  • Tankie = Apologists for outright oppressive, murderous regimes like Putin's Russia and North Korea
[–] [email protected] 28 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I don't think anything significant would be lost by dumping ml. two years ago sure, the platform was too small but now ml is just annoying. I don't know how the governance of that sever is set up. but if nutomic has control of the domain, its more a question of when will he decide to change ml rules. I trust ada to make the call when federation with ml becomes a problem. guess i'm just chiming in to reaffirm that for when the time comes. don't know how lemmy as a platform grows long term if nutomic retains any level of control over it. but i'll probably just be following you fuckin weirdos onto the next platform so it's not that big a deal. maybe it could be a nostalgic return to internet forums.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

Nutomic doesn't really mod .ml much anymore.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 hours ago

his current mod practices are not my point. and he's already banned from here, nutomic isnt a problem here for us in this moment. but if he retains control of the ml server/domain in some way. his responses to db0 definitely show him obsfuscating, not being naive or uninformed. when the blowback from his own statements causes him to drop the mask full-time. ml rules could become whatever he decides and the mod team becomes whatever he needs to enforce that. if the ml server governance is designed in a way to protect against that, great! the odds of it going fully hostile are lower.

[–] [email protected] 75 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Personally, I don't think his shitty views necessarily translate into .ml moderation policy and action, which to me would be the problem that defederation is meant to solve.

That said, I wouldn't mind defed-ing from them in general, as most of my unpleasant interactions in the fediverse have been with .ml users.

Ultimately, I'll back Ada on what she thinks and decides. She's very level headed and strict with other instances as far as blahaj zones mission statement is concerned, and I trust her completely.

[–] [email protected] 30 points 2 days ago (3 children)

Yeah I’m really starting to regret making my Lemmy account with this server. At the time it was just the biggest one and I didn’t know anything about the type of communities they hosted. I tend to stay out of politics, I’m just here for the funny memes man

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 hours ago

You can export your settings and communities in settings, and import them on another server.

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[–] [email protected] 31 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (5 children)

This feels like cherry picked examples to try and frame nutomic as being transphobic. Its always this one screenshot, of a comment made in response to something else that I have never seen posted any of the times this has been brought up. A response without context is kind of sus.

Being uninformed or misinformed is not bigotry. There was a time when I probably would have said something similar, before I learned more, and knew better. I don't think this is strong evidence of a real issue.

Until the point that he makes more questionable statements about trans or lgbtqia2s+ people, this is fine as far as I'm concerned. I don't think what I have seen so far is actionable.

Edit: from reading Ada's comments in this thread I endorse her stance.

From the very strict enforcement standards of this instance, the DM was enough to warrant a ban for nutomic, but not enough to warrant defederation for ml. That seems fine until or unless more information comes to light.

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[–] [email protected] 28 points 2 days ago

I personally blocked ml a long time ago and my experience is much better for it. Their moderation and userbase leave much to be desired. As far as nutomic, I would say it seems like hes not a good person from what I know, and especially this post.

[–] [email protected] 68 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (20 children)

Personally, I have a very poor opinion of nutomic. And yes, he has always been/felt transphobic. He has a history of making massive oversteps to attack people that have differing opinions to his, and overall I believe him to be a threat to the trans community. As for whether we should defederate? I really have no clue. It certainly isn't a bastion for blatant transphobia, and hosts many of the top Lemmy communities, and a very large amount of the active Lemmy userbase. I think the effects of defederation would be immense, and take a lot of time and consideration to understand if it's overall beneficial to the community. That being said, I'm sure I could be swayed to support either side. I'd be very curious what Ada has to say about this, as I believe I'll support her opinion on the matter.

EDIT: I think it's valuable to point out that any individual user can block an instance in their settings. So regardless of any defederation decision (which Ada seems opposed to), anyone can choose to block the instance themselves.

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[–] [email protected] 48 points 2 days ago

I'm not on my blahaj account, but I can copy/paste there if you'd prefer. Just seemed pointless when I use the same user name to switch over.

But I'm mainly giving some background to the whole matter, rather than primarily "voting" about defederation.

It's interesting that nutomic wants to get all het up after asking for donations to lemmy development.

That's largely why they've been so active in comments lately. They can't seem to keep from expecting people to pay them as individuals the develop lemmy, while also not being willing to at least be clear about where they stand.

And that's what the donation requests are about. They're not bringing in enough to develop full time. And that's an important thing, having full time developers on a project like this. What they don't seem to get is that they're not just asking us to pay for full time developers, they're asking us to pay them. They aren't figureheads or managers, so it isn't some kind of collective where you can point to other members of the dev team and say "well, maybe those two are unpleasant, but at least the rest aren't bigoted"

Which, afaik, dessalines has never publicly been bigoted. He can be a smug asshole sometimes, but so can I, so there's only so much complaining I can do there. But nutomic is a different issue, and this screen shot perfectly encapsulates how.

Donations would go into both of their pockets for their work, and they do deserve to be paid for that. Even jerks get to make a living. But we all get the choice as to whether or not we're a customer or not. Me? My double digit yearly open source budget is going to people that at least have the sense to have never shot their mouths off with bigoted bullshit. Lemmy is an amazing thing, and the world needs it. I just can't directly support a bigot. I can't, and won't do it.

I wouldn't hire on someone to fix my roof if they had a damn maga hat on, why would I give money to someone that is not only just as much of a bigot, but is also hyper authoritarian? I know hiring someone vs contributing to a project isn't a 1:1 equivalency, but the principle is.

Donations to then also fund .ml. And if anyone wants to donate like that, it's none of my business. It's just important that it be known that you can't donate granularly. You donate, .ml gets some operating costs covered, dessalines gets a chunk, and nutomic gets a chunk.

And that's where this comes from. The discussion in the screen shot is fallout from that. Nutomic still holds the same views they always have, but wants people to ignore that when donating. Which is fine!

As far as defederation goes, all I can say is that, while I have had unpleasant runins with both of them, I've never been permanently banned from .ml, or any of its communities. Individual communities there can, and do, enforce anti-bigotry rules with no interference from admins. But, there are no specific instance rules regarding transphobia in particular.

Again, this is pretty much just added background for anyone that hasn't the time to go digging for the context of the screen shots.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Is this guy even real? lmao at this point he might as well admit to being a christo-facist

[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 days ago (1 children)

They're doing what many TERFs do, trying to cover up their bigotry with politeness and trying to sound like it's about logic or discussing the meaning of things. Trying to make their transphobia seem acceptable. Then they say trans people are unreasonable when they get called out or banned for their bigotry.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 days ago

If there is content on defederated instances users want access to they can make accounts on other servers.

Not to automatically assume that these users want to see hateful content, but as generally small that Lemmy is, some users might feel that defederating from such a massive server not worth the lack of content and communication. Blahaj does great with protecting trans users I appreciate this, but I would suggest to consider the overall health of Lemmy overall and what such a drastic action might have on their own community. Could it results on the communities activity to decline due to less interaction?

There might be some bad communities and some other good ones on lemmy.ml, with activity and if the largest servers are defederated, now users will have to make multiple accounts on other servers and hope that they can see certain content, when it use to be if they wanted to make multiple accounts just because.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (2 children)

I personally haven't seen any transphobic posts on .ml so I don't see a reason to block the whole instance. I also see some folx ITT taking issue with the left-leaning user base of .ml, but I don't think we should enforce political views that aren't related to LGBT rights here.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 2 days ago

taking issue with the left-leaning user base of .ml

Nobody who isn't an avid .ml user thinks the problem is their leftism. If it was, instances like Blahaj and db0 would get the same hate. I'm guessing this is your Blahaj alt account?

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[–] [email protected] 39 points 2 days ago

This looks like a fight trying to be picked, not something to defederate over.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (2 children)

I saw this earlier in [email protected] and it's pretty bad. I'm in favor of defederation, at the very least to help cut some of .ml's network effect on the Fediverse. Since many of their communities are insanely large and they're also very well known for banning people for let's just say less than justified reasons. Nutomic's transphobia is really the last straw in my opinion. If people are interested in looking for alternative to popular .ml communities, [email protected] is a good place to look.

I don't think anyone needs to stop using or break away from Lemmy like people say. Lemmy is open-source and can easily be forked. Lemmy's devs don't have the authority to deny people from using Lemmy either. Instances operate independent of them, and since many instances are already here and using Lemmy, switching to something completely different and incompatible would be extremely damaging.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

I think defederating almost any instance is dumb, not my instance though so do what you will.

[–] [email protected] 24 points 2 days ago (4 children)

Lemmy.ml doesn't tolerate transphobia regardless of nutomic's views and probably has a bigger trans userbase than even blahaj. Stop stirring drama.

[–] [email protected] 26 points 2 days ago (1 children)

There's plenty of other things the other admins and mods do that is worthy of consideration of defederation

[–] [email protected] 18 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

^ pretty much sums up my thoughts on .ML

There's certainly nice folks and great communities over there, but the bad faith arguments, "russia/china can do no wrong" propaganda (i had to block Yogthos to have literally anything show up in my All feed, JFC the spam posting), and outright hostile moderation, it just isn't worth engaging with.

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 days ago (4 children)

It's the first time I see the transphobic original message, and honestly I'm not surprised to see it within ML community. In general, they and the ideology is already rather cultish given their beliefs and the shunning of "wrongthink", but there's a smaller subsection of ML's who genuinely believe in this kind of reactionary chauvinism that's a complete bastardization of Marxism.

There's probably no one on this specific community who goes "hmm maybe there's some merit to that statement", but in case there is:

Trans people exist, and much like proletarians, their experience is shaped by our society and material conditions. They suffer through medical gatekeeping, discrimination and state violence among other things, all of them stemming from structures of capitalist domination, and just because occasionally some bourgeoisie opportunistically exploit these issues to garner support/profit from rainbow capitalism and the like, doesn't mean you should go full reactionary.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 2 days ago (3 children)

Tankies showing us how close to right wing conservatives they really are. How unusual /s. Makes one look at this particular crowd's big push to not vote in elections against a wannabe bigot fascist a little differently..

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

But he used the word bourgeoisie. That means it's Marxist and left-wing. /j

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