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Every time somebody sends me a thumb I take it as "whatever you say you fucking dumbass" and it pisses me off.

And ya, I'm aware that that the replies are going to be thumbs, let's see em ya jerks!!!

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[โ€“] Commiunism@beehaw.org 5 points 1 month ago

Depends on context - if it's a yes/no question or something that can be replied to with a simple "great" or "okay", thumbs up serves as a "yes" or as a gesture that the person has read the message and doesn't have any problems with it.

It might be considered rude though for more complex discussions, where you need to respond in sentences

[โ€“] davel@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)
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[โ€“] JackbyDev@programming.dev 4 points 1 month ago

It depends on the context and the person for me.

[โ€“] GammaGames@beehaw.org 4 points 1 month ago

yes ๐Ÿ‘

[โ€“] Atomic@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 month ago

You see it as dismissive. Low effort reply, like they couldn't be bothered. It's not inviting continued conversation so you see it as someone telling you to stop talking to them.

If I were to guess. In your eyes. They might as well have replied with "cool story bro".

Which is now forever a sarcastic term and no one regardless of what you say, will believe that you actually found their story cool.

I'm with you but it's a generational thing. Are you a millennial?

[โ€“] sleeplessone@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 month ago

I basically use it as a way to acknowledge that I saw a message but have nothing further to ask or add.

[โ€“] Mitchie151@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

In private messages outside of work, yes, it comes across passive aggressive and is a hard stop to a conversation. In work context though, it's pretty common on teams as an acknowledgement, though I still think it's nicer to use like a heart react then actually reply.

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[โ€“] kratoz29@lemm.ee 4 points 1 month ago

I'll reply with the all mighty answer:

It depends.

Depends on the people you are talking to I'd say.

[โ€“] YurkshireLad@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 month ago

Nope, not at all.

[โ€“] CurlyWurlies4All@slrpnk.net 4 points 1 month ago
[โ€“] Rin@lemm.ee 4 points 1 month ago

I found it rude but not anymore and I have to really think about it. On facebook messenger, the default emoji is ๐Ÿ‘ and during my stay on that platform (~2011-2017) it was regarded as a rude, low effort dismissal, at least inside my circles.

Nowadays, i double take and find that people don't indent to be rude to me. After all, i'm not on facebook anymore and these people weren't in my circle.

[โ€“] Darleys_Brew@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Depends on context for me.

[โ€“] Tungsten5@lemm.ee 4 points 1 month ago

I used to but then at work everyone always uses the thumbs up on slack. So I got used to it. Nowadays it depends on the context of the convo

[โ€“] xc2215x@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago
[โ€“] Jehuty@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

It really depends on the age of the sender.

30s and younger: Fairly dismissive response. Not outright insulting but pretty rude.

40s and older: genuinely meant as an earnest acknowledgement of your message.

[โ€“] saigot@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 month ago

Just like a curt "yes" or even "yes sir" can be seen as somewhat rude in some contexts, so to can its emoji equivalent.

[โ€“] i_am_not_a_robot@feddit.uk 3 points 1 month ago

Personally i do. Same as the ๐Ÿ˜‰ wink smiley... comes across as a bit of a cunt in my opinion.

Could be because there were shitty people that would use it in condescending ways at me.

[โ€“] gilindoeslemmy@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago
[โ€“] Fondots@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago

It depends on the context

If I'm just looking for a confirmation that my message was received, and the plans need to additional modification, a thumbs up is sufficient.

If I ask something like "Wanna meet up at the bar after work today?" And get a thumbs up, that's sufficient. We know where we're going and when, no more discussion really needed.

If I ask "you free to grab a beer this weekend?" and I get a thumbs up, that's bullshit. When are you free to grab said beer? Where are we going for it? We have details that need to be hammered out.

[โ€“] moakley@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I had this discussion with my wife a few weeks ago. She did that to a work colleague who took offense to it. I explained that that's because her colleague is about 8 years younger than us.

Basically, if the recipient is 35 and under, it's offensive. If they're 40 and older, it's not. Anywhere in between, look for context.

[โ€“] dumbass@leminal.space 2 points 1 month ago
[โ€“] njm1314@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago
[โ€“] Photuris@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 month ago

Not rude at all.

[โ€“] kattfisk@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 month ago
[โ€“] quantum_faun@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 month ago

No big deal at all

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