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Being single can be massively freeing, especially where work is concerned - you have many fewer ties geographically as to where you can go to find work. If you can travel (car, train, whatever) then you have a great blank slate to work from.
It can be daunting starting again but you just need to handle your shit one step at a time, and you have the luxury of being totally independent.
I'm not independent
What restrictions do you have? I understand that nobody is an island, rather that it can sometimes be helpful to reframe things in your mind.
Obviously there are immovable restrictions (you are a carer to family, or can't leave an area for any number of reasons), but sometimes it can be helpful to view things from a different angle.
@[email protected] isn’t here to improve his life. This is at least the 10th post I’ve seen from him bemoaning his terrible life. Any advice he’s given is dismissed as being irrelevant or impossible.
I don’t know what he’s looking for but it’s not solutions.
People say that dying isn't the solution
They aren't wrong. It fixes nothing that's going on in your life. If you're feeling as though it might, please speak to someone. I know that sounds cliche, but it can help.
single status, loneliness
Being single can suck, but it can also be a perfect opportunity to work on yourself, by taking away the things about your life that you don't like, and working for the things you do.
After my last relationship failed, I started focusing on myself. I've learned so much about who I am, what I want, and what I need. I haven't been this happy in ages.
Hope this cheers you up 💐
Not much else I can offer right now.
Well, besides some more flowers 🌺🌷🌻🌸🌹🌼🪷🪻
Which kind of job was it?
Your strength and courage isn't measured by how many times you got kicked down. It's about how many times you got up. You're not back at zero. You have the experience of this before, and you have gotten out of that situation successfully. It's tough, but you can do it again. Don't give up on yourself.
Get your food situation sorted out. Then if you have no criminal record, look for security guard, desk clerk, concierge type jobs, for example, or temp contract work. From there you can figure out how to shape your life in the way you want it to be.
What were you and why didn't it last?
Life defiantly sucks sometimes. It gets better than it gets worse, then better again. Don't let the bastards win! Keep pushing through, everything is temporary even your pain.
Jobs and the people in your life may come and go. Usually for the better, sometimes for the worse. Both are learning experiances.
I get it, it fucking sucks right now! Not just for you but for many, even me. You aren't as alone as you think, at least in the life sucking department.
After almost half of a century on this earth I've learned. Keep kicking, always punch upward. Things will eventually get better.
Your basing your happiness on external things like if people like you. That is not a good way to live.
Find purpose you are happy with, focus on that, don't worry about others or love, and your focus and purpose will actually fix the other problems.
Bro constantly posts here about how everyone else makes his life horrible, but then constantly refuses to change in any way. Constantly posting about being single but refusing some really good and honest advice I've seen. I'm just done with their sympathy posts.
I saw someone give him genuine advice in a comment and his reply was simply “no.” I get that there are folks legitimately asking for help, but if you constantly bait people with “woe is me” posts and then refuse to listen to a single shred of advice, I have zero to offer.
Life is hard and the best thing that has helped me is finding joy in simpler things through the lens of Taoist philosophy, pulling myself away from screens, and reading more books. At some point you have to take the reins here and live for you, instead of hinging life on what everyone else is doing.
100%; It's attention seeking behavior. As far as their implied threat goes, they either will, or they wont. If we engage with the threat, that just feeds into the attention seeking behavior.
So I give what advice I can, and the rest is up to them.
A lot of lemmy doesn't respond well to tough love, which some people need, you can't just enable people stuck in a rut to stay in the rut forever!
Any post where people are encouraged to be the agent of their own self actualization is met with a flood of downvotes, in my experience.
Decide what you need to change in your life to improve it, and make a plan, and do it.