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3 months later back to zero.

People say that dying isn't the solution... But piling this with my eternal single status, loneliness and other problems...

Life is a torture.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago)

100%; It's attention seeking behavior. As far as their implied threat goes, they either will, or they wont. If we engage with the threat, that just feeds into the attention seeking behavior.

So I give what advice I can, and the rest is up to them.

A lot of lemmy doesn't respond well to tough love, which some people need, you can't just enable people stuck in a rut to stay in the rut forever!

Any post where people are encouraged to be the agent of their own self actualization is met with a flood of downvotes, in my experience.

  • I live with my parents : So what? That's normal in most of the world
  • I don't have a love interest : Become interesting first! Nobody owes you their affection
  • I never had sex : It's not so important, but if its a real blocker there are providers of negotiable affection
  • I'm lonely : Yeah? Most men are lonely even in their own busy lives, being around people and being understood are different. If you want connections you have to make them, be accessible, and be a resource to those you care about.
  • Back to zero : NOT AT ALL! You have a new phone (from their posts), more world experience, and now a better idea on what you like to do and where you can do it.

Decide what you need to change in your life to improve it, and make a plan, and do it.