"That's what she said" long predates the office. I feel like it was used in SNL in the 80's.
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As an ESL: "IKR" aka "I know, right?". I thought it has kind of passive-aggressive/sarcastic undertext, meaning something more of a "bro cmon this is obvious/trivial", while it's actually seems to be quite the opposite - emphatic affirmation of someones excitement about something. Keep in mind, I've never heard it IRL as I rarely talk to native speakers IRL, it was just a wrong impression from chats and online discussions.
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it's definitely not from the office, lol. it's an old old joke that probably predates television.
the joke was really that he was so out of touch he was using a quite dated sexist joke.
“that’s what she said” isn't from the Office though. It's way older then that. It was already a catchpharse on Saturday Night Live in the 80s. Probably older then that still.
TIL!
It's time had come and gone, and was a super cringy thing to say when The Office started. And cringy humor in tv shows wasn't really a thing yet. The Office really pioneered the genre. The joke with Michael saying it was how out of touch he was.
For the longest time I thought “limp wristed” meant ineffective, like if you were to hold something with a limp wrist you were more liable to drop it.
That was a fun day at work when I found out what it actually meant… after using the term in the middle of a meeting to describe a vendor’s poor performance.
Same with using the phrase "raw-dogging" (I think there was a cartoon about it.)
Growing up I always wrote off “it’s always in the last place you look” as just another random thing adults loved to just say all the time.
It's meant to be humorous or ironic, or to express frustration.
Of course it's in the last place you look, because once you find it you stop looking.
On King of the Hill, Peggy says that in an episode and it always cracks me up, because she's an idiot.
and whose the obvious winner there. Dale.
So is that phrase a joke? I see people talk about how dumb/obvious it is, but I always thought it meant "it's always in the last place you [would have thought to] look", as in a ridiculous place you'd never consider.
However my whole family is ADHD and used to setting things in dumb spots you'd never check.
I never really got it for the same reason. Not sure if my parents misworded it, or if I misinterpreted.
Hate that phrase. It says nothing. Obviously it's in the last place you look, because you stop looking! At least "It's always in the place you least expect." says something that feels relatable.
Well damn, that just clicked for me.
As a non native English speaker it took me some time to fully grasp the meaning of "i couldn't care less" it's quite tricky
Don't worry, plenty of people in the US get it wrong.
In my language I though it was "bære den af" litrally translation, to carry it off. Turns out its "bære nag", carry a bunch of straws. The saying means to hold a grudge. They do sound super close to each other when spoken
All but impossible and next to impossible.
how were you misusing them?
Indefinite leave to remain.
English is a very weird language.
What did you think it meant?
I didn't know what to make of it. I had to read and double that it means what it is used for.
I never knew it was from the office but I wouldn’t know how to use it beyond s contextual reference to sex. A serious setting including sex jokes is either a niche industry or a red flag.
I don't think it's from The Office. OP must have heard it there first and assumed.
But yeah, agreed. Had a coworker who was a little too comfortable making those jokes, including constant "that's what she said" jokes. He turned out to be an entitled, abusive creep the first time a woman shut down one of those jokes. Now I see what a big red flag it is.
The sad thing for myself, a Brit that enjoyed the British version ( the original ) and can't watch more than a minute of that other load of crap, is that this saying is attributed to that shit show when it's been around for so much longer. It used to carry some weight when used sparingly and in the right context. Now it is so much more cheapened.
Well anyway OP, I hope you've learned a thing.