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Seriously I see these posts all the time about people who have a co-worker who steals food so they make gross food to 'get back at them' cause HR doesn't do anything.

Legit question but how do you not just freak out and yell at the person? If a co-worker stole my food the 1st time I'd yell at them and curse them out, the 2nd time I'd threaten to shove the food in their fat face next time I see it happen. If HR didn't do anything I'd threaten to quit and sue if they claimed I don't get EI because it's a toxic work environment.

I just don't get how people are so passive when co-workers literally steal from them? I'd be fucking livid.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 22 hours ago

The only work theft I ever tolerated was coffee creamer, because we all knew who was addicted to coffee, and we all sort of stole in a circle from each other for a day or two when we ran out of our own.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 2 days ago

Never ever been in a place where people take food that isn't theirs. I cannot even comprehend it. And if it happened more than once I'd keep my food in a backpack at my desk.

Is it yours? If no don't touch. Simple as that.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 2 days ago (1 children)

A guy I worked with had his lunch stolen from the freezer one day. He walked around and found the empty container in the trash of a new guy. He was canned that day.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 2 days ago

Be wary of such proof.

As a young kid in the 80s, I went to stay for three days at an adventure centre. One barn was converted to house bunk beds and there were about 20 kids of about 11 years old. Everyone else was there for a week and I joined midway, and found it difficult to integrate.

One kid, the only one who had shown me any welcome, had his woolly hat stolen. Another kid suggested searching everyone's bags for it. There was general resistance, most kids thought he'd lost it somewhere and that never happened.

When I got home the following day and unpacked, I found the hat in my bag. Someone had planted it there, probably the kid who suggested searching bags. Taught me a lot about people, that did.

[–] [email protected] 71 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (4 children)

Because that's not how the corporate world works. You want to freak out and yell at them? Go ahead. Maybe they don't eat someone else's food for a week. Meanwhile you'll be hunting for a new job. You threaten another employee? You'll be lucky to be employed at the end of the day.

Life is a series of tradeoffs. The squeaky wheel gets the grease. Tim may steal food, but that doesn't mean it's throwing off the status quo. You yell at Tim, you're upsetting the status quo. So go ahead, and have fun with your pink slip. Hope it was worth it.

Or you can keep your lunch at your desk.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Good lord this makes me happy I've not worked in corporate and stayed in blue collar work.

Someone steals food in a shop, that someone's gonna have a bad day and the boss yells at anyone "whining", including the guy who got his ass kicked.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 hours ago

The only time I've ever had my food stolen was when I was working as a deckhand on a tug. I've been working white collar jobs for the past 25 years and haven't had to deal with it since.

Also, my solution was to spray degreaser on my food the next day and wait to see who complains. Turns out, I'm the one who got in trouble for that even though I put a 'do not eat' sign in the food.

[–] [email protected] 29 points 3 days ago (1 children)

That sounds awful all around

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago

Yes, life on earth as per usual. Humans are the problem as usual.

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Happened to me too. Didn't know who it was. I ended up keeping my lunch in my backpack (thermally insulated container), and no one stole my lunch after that.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Sounds like the thief won. Made you change your habits.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

As opposed to continuing to bring the thief food?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Or here's a thought, put a stop to the thieving.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

You say this like it's impossible to do both of those things at the same time?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

What was I supposed to do? HR won't help, and I sure as hell won't put laxatives or ghost peppers in the food as a trap for the thief like some people on the internet proclaim to do since this is a potential felony charge. Besides, I get to eat a warm lunch every day without needing to worry about a thief. Good enough for me...

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

If you're happy then it seems there really wasn't a problem in the first place.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

Thanks for the insight, Professor

[–] [email protected] 22 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

I empathize of your outrage. I once worked at a place with 100+ employees and high turnover, and people would steal lunches there. When I first heard about it I was horrified. The reality is that the company doesn't care, and unless you're the person whose lunch is being stolen, most co-workers won't care either -- they wouldn't even know how to help you.

A solution could be as simple as a camera pointed at the fridge, along with firing any thieves. IMO the fact that most places don't take it seriously is evidence of how little they care about the employees.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 days ago

I agree. It's theft.

HR should absolutely get involved because it's going to really affect the working environment. And if you're hungry as a result, you're really not going to be doing your best work.

[–] [email protected] 52 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Yall dealing with people stealing food? Ive worked in an office setting for almost 20 years and ive not once ever heard of someone taking someone elses food

[–] [email protected] 23 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

There was a night guard who would go around at night and steal food from alle the office break rooms. They installed combination locks on them ans gave the code only to people in the department. When they found the culprit, they fired him. Which is the only sensible thing to do when someone is stealing on the job.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 days ago

Steal from the company, not from the employees.

[–] [email protected] 44 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I'm guessing that they don't know who stole the food

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[–] [email protected] 42 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

Maybe because the only co-worker food theft stories that get upvoted and therefore seen are the dramatic ones about passive-aggressively making gross food for the food thief. And who knows how many of them are true stories and how many are creative writing projects for internet points.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 days ago

Making inedible or spicy food to catch a food thief is a trick as old as time and I have even done it myself. There is no other way to catch them out usually.

[–] [email protected] 37 points 3 days ago (2 children)

My cop relative said everyone working in police stations keeps their stuff in lockers because cops constantly steal from each other. Not just food.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 3 days ago

This is the least surprising thing I have learned today.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago

What do you expect when most cops are criminals

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)
  1. The average person wants peace in their life.

  2. These are the fringes that the malicious operate best.


  1. Because it's not really worth the hassle to you.

Most actually don't want to yell and scream at someone, to escalate a situation, to involve themselves with "authority figures" that do nothing but work preserve the hierarchy around them.

It's exhausting just to exist while we suffer this way of life. People just gotta pick their battles because we are losing the class war.

  1. Because they feel safe to antagonize relentlessly.

these malicious actors know the average person wants this peace. They pick and poke ceaselessly like the vultures they are. What are you gonna do about it? Nothing.

Even if you do stand your ground, you will be vilified for putting the front of their face into the back of their skull.

Or if you yell and scream, others will think you're crazy/dramatic/unreasonable regardless of the circumstances.

Or perhaps you plead uselessly to your indifferent "authority figures" who only exist to exploit you in the most efficient way possible. Utterly toothless. Can you be surprised? We are not free while living like this.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 3 days ago

I mean the real answer to your question is that those posts are all fake because the internet loves stories about revenge on such a small scale they can't be disproven.

But I want to know what kind of job keeps you by the fridge 24/7 so you can always witness food theft. Most people don't work in the break room, so they have no way of knowing who to yell at when their food disappears.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 days ago

Because they don't know what i put in there.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 days ago

How else are they going to identify middle management prospects?

[–] [email protected] 20 points 3 days ago (3 children)

If they're any good at it, you won't know who stole your food. If I did know who the thief was, yelling/cursing/threatening would get me fired. It's easier to keep my food at my desk in an insulated lunchbox with an ice pack.

And finally, HR doesn't give a flying fuck about your lunch. They would laugh in your face if you threatened to sue them.

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Stealing food is theft - it may be petty theft but it's still theft. If you report it to HR and nothing is done then you can sue the company for a hostile work environment.

If you use laxatives, excessive spice, whatever and injure a coworker then you can be fired with cause and possibly be civilly or criminally liable if the damages are significant enough.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 22 hours ago

excessive spice

Why? I could just say that "wow, my friend gave me some spicy peppers because I like spicy food, but this is way overkill. I'll have to go get takeaway."

Not tasting food before eating it is not a crime.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Where I work HR put a big sign on the refrigerator door about not stealing food

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)
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[–] [email protected] 14 points 3 days ago (3 children)

Um yea I think thats just social media attention seeking. I don't think that is any more common than something like shoplifting.

Reddit loves to upvote drama.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 days ago

That doesn’t say much, shoplifting is super common.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 days ago

I always keep Lunch in my backpack at my desk or eat in a cafeteria. The best way to be chill about a problem is to avoid having the problem.

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