That you don't put soap in the bootyhole
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At 50 I learned I’d been tying my shoes wrong my entire life.
I've been wearing slip on shoes for so long idk if I could even tie a granny knot
My whole life has been a lie.
Yep. Learned the first knot goes left over right in my 30s. Shoes fit better and don't do that stupid thing where the laces face front to back.
Welp, as long as they haven't kept coming undone for those 50 years I guess it can't have been that wrong...
real!!
Manage your finances. Know where every penny goes. Budget as best as you can - plan for all of the things you know you spend money on through a year. It doesn't mean you can't spend money on things you like, but it does mean that you know when you can afford it. It gives you confidence and control no matter how much you are making.
The thing that comes only with age is: to not give a fuck.
When we learn that it doesn't matter we can all be little old people who are purple mohawk headed, wearing clashing neon adidas jumpsuit with zebra primted boas.
I only learned this a few weeks ago at 40 years old, now my hair is blue, both my ears are pierced and I'm a lot happier. I told my 19 year old daughter that "what will people think?" has been my mantra, now it's "fuck 'em"
"at 20, you care the world what everyone thinks of you
At 40 you learn to not care what anyone thinks of you
At 60, you realize nobody has been thinking about you at all, the whole time."
If you quit worrying what people think of you, you'll realize how seldom they do.
There’s always someone who will look at your life telling you you’re doing everything wrong. And you know what? That’s fine. It really doesn’t matter.
To just invest in broad index funds instead of trying to play the stock market.
So what you’re saying is I should HODL my Bored Ape NFTs?
/jk, broad stock & bond index funds are the way to go.
No no no, they're saying buy more NTFs! They just need to be different apes so you can have a broad index of them!
:P
Hello fellow boglehead. Im happy i learned this at a young age, a long time ago.
I did both. Mostly ETFs, then some companies I liked. I’m up 100% over seven or so years, but I do admit I got lucky on companies I liked. All EFTs are up a bunch, the safest way to go!
"Fake it till you make it" doesn't mean pretend to be happy until you are happy. I committed to a relationship I wasn't happy in, a career I wasn't happy in, and hobbies I wasn't happy doing, all because I wanted the approval of others. A divorce, career change, and hobby swap made me much happier.
Yeah, fake it till you make it only applies to overcoming self doubt, and should not be used to dismiss glaring problems. It certaibly doesn't work as a cure all for actual problems.
It can in rare cases work for happiness, but only if the reason is one that is just based on self doubt while things are actually going well.
My family is never going to return the favor. Should've gone to school instead of taking care of them.
"Family first" is such a contemptible load of crap. Primarily this idea only seems to be brought out by the same exact people that then abuse the notion.
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Stoicism. The philosophical ideas of how to live a purposeful and good life.
Aurelius would hate what stoicism has become
Indeed. For many people it has become some kind of Broicism where alpha Incels talk to each other about how tough they have become and how they’re suppressing their emotions.
That’s of course not what I refer to. I actually read the ancient texts and The Inner Citade by Pierre Hadot. When I talk about stoicism I actually mean it in a way that Seneca, Marcus Aurelius, Rufus and Epictetus would agree on.
Marcus Aurelius' "Meditations" really gave me perspective.
The Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday is a great beginner sampler, and/or a way to keep it in your life when you don’t have an appetite for the “heavy” stuff.
Lying can get you ahead in the immediate, but then you’re a liar, and liars lose friends and alienate people.
opposite for me. Sometimes it's better to lie about small details as to not bag down an unrelated conversation with "well actually it was my sister's boyfriend's mother's dogs uncle that told me that, not my sister's boyfriend's dogs aunt."
I also have autism and struggle with conversations so that's probs why.
Really depends on the lies. Lies that get you ahead on life are typically not the same ones that tend to snger those you care about.
The danger to me is its sorta impossible to lie without in some way believing it. The Costanza thing. It basically reduces your own ability to discern reality.
Take it sleazy. Not for everyone, but for some people the most productive way of getting stuff done is doing it with less effort. Don't go too fast and burn out
Empathy, Hurt people hurt people.
Dating lol
Go to therapy.
Therapy is maintenance (at the very least). If you haven't ever been to therapy, you're driving around without an oil change.
How to make latte art. First success today at the age of forty!
Double entry bookkeeping.
Who was committing fraud?
I was today years old (20) when I realized to not rely on anyone for anything. You're on your own in this small little world.
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