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It's a situation that I have been expecting for a while, but I wasn't fully ready to accept it. Specifically it's one of my LGBTQ friends who honestly believes in the democrats will protect them and their partner. I have tried to make the point that both parties are eroding any sort of civility towards all marginalized groups, but fear seems to drive them more than logical observations. They make the excuse that change doesn't happen over night and that the left continues to grow and will have meaningful affects down the road. I fundamentally just don't agree with that idea and vocalize it regularly. More and more it is ending up in a circular argument where I am painted as unrealistic and my rhetoric (leftist rhetoric) is doing more harm than good because it promotes distrust in the only system we have to work with. I try to tell them it's kind of the whole point. We gotta start somewhere if we want to see a better, more representative system, but they are so hung up on the immediate future while simultaneously saying that my idealistic feelings are shortsighted and I cant expect change in the immediate future... The double-talk is wild, I know.

I am trying my hardest to stop from engaging at this point because on the most basic level we agree on a lot of stuff, but they are just way to wrapped up in the fear mongering of the democratic party. They know that the two party system is broken, they know that something drastic needs to change, but they also think that they are powerless to do anything except choose the lesser evil. It pains me because I am watching them do the same shit past generations have done, where they give up on their ideals for the sake of preserving the current status quo that they benefit from. I am legitimately watching them imply "fuck you, got mine" under the guise of civic duty and I hate it. I want nothing more than to be able to finally say "I told you so" without being a smug asshole about it and ruining our friendship.

Thanks for reading my rant. It's probably a bit disjointed, but the frustration is boiling over and I needed to vent to the only group of people that seems to understand the hopelessness of being a disenfranchised leftist.

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[–] [email protected] 30 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Change never arrives because the people who own the rest of us suddenly feel charitable.

[–] [email protected] 26 points 20 hours ago

Fascism has never willingly or peacfuly conceded.

[–] [email protected] 55 points 22 hours ago (4 children)

For me it's the whole "the left is continuing to grow"

Liberals have been shifting to the right for years. The democratic president is endorsed by dick fucking cheyney, is running on more cruelty on the border, and has completely given up even discussing universal Healthcare, and has completely dropped the ball on abortion.

The liberals are objectively getting worse which is to be expected when their main strategy is justnconceding to republicans on everything.

And it doesn't even bother liberals, they'll tell you with a straight face that bidens the most pro environemnt pro union president in history you can tell them "were drilling more oil than anyone ever anywhere and every time there's a strike you liberals keep saying it's a Russian hoax to hurt democrats"

And they just roll their eyes and fucking act like they're so morally superior your real world examples don't count.

[–] [email protected] 50 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

And they just roll their eyes and fucking act like they're so morally superior your real world examples don't count.

UUUUUUUGH!

Yeah its the smugness that gets me the most. Especially my debate lord friends where I almost hear the deep inhale they take before spouting off about the systemic limits.... Of systems they refuse to uproot out of fear of losing access to amazon prime.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 20 hours ago* (last edited 20 hours ago) (4 children)

Yea the root of the cause is liberals (seemingly intentionally) not actually understanding nefotiation despite the fact they regularly say compromise is their top priority.

You see it in the last strike where theybwere all saying the opening demands were completely unrealistic and then 48 hours later the union had reached a really beneficial deal.

Liberals think if you actually want to get $100 for something an opening bid of $200 is a moral failing.

Liberals negotiate themselves into a corner before their opponents even make an opening offer.

To continue the over simplified example of wanting $100 for something, a liberal woukd say "ideally I want $100 for this but I'm willing to go as low as $60"

Then republicans say "fuck you ill give you $10" and Liberals settle on $5 for the sake of compromise.

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[–] [email protected] 26 points 20 hours ago* (last edited 20 hours ago) (2 children)

Not everyone around me in the northeast is friendly, let alone a comrade, but I'm very glad to be far away from Silicon Valley liberals at long last.

I was very nearly approaching explosive-shouting-replies to the smug, arrogant, and even occult shit they'd keep saying to me, unprompted and unsolicited, especially after dae le epic "AI" hype waves took off.

https://futurism.com/openai-employees-say-firms-chief-scientist-has-been-making-strange-spiritual-claims

[–] [email protected] 14 points 18 hours ago

That article is from last year and since then NVDIA is now "worth" 11% of the US GDP as a consequence, so I can kind of understand how you can see this as some sort of "miracle".

What is the opposite of capitalism realism? Capitalist absurdism? We are increasingly seeing events and trends that defy even previous well established mainstream rethoric.

Surely they're already believing or soon will turn into the old too big to fail rethoric, everyone prepares for the crash that never comes. When it does come its not a crash at all but a "pullback" only. The line only goes up, you may lose all your money but as long as Blackrock servers keep running the HFT algos Wall Street will be open every weekday at 9am.

At some point yeah, its like believing no matter what happens the church will always be there etc. There is some argument the closer we are to climate collapse the more we will regress towards fantasy escapist beliefs. The world is shit but AI will save us is just what a 14th century peasant would be saying about the church and god during the Bubonic plague. We haven't changed.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 17 hours ago (3 children)

I have never lived anywhere else besides the east coast, but I run into enough Silicon Valley types due to my jobs, they are on another level.

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[–] [email protected] 28 points 20 hours ago* (last edited 20 hours ago) (2 children)

Yeah I was about to make a similar post - just had a big debate with some older family friends at a party my parents had that are die-hard dems (which was nice, as they're way further left then most other people there).

They were aghast when I said I wasn't voting blue, and had no idea who Claudia or the PSL are, of course.

Got a lot of "this is the most important election ever" and "if he wins democracy is over" of course. But the one that really chapped my biscuits was saying that if he wins, then [my family member] will lose access to reproductive health care and IVF in particular.

So I said yeah right, neither side is going to change a damn thing about that, because they both see it as way too valuable of a carrot/stick to give up campaigning and fundraising on it. If the dems care so much about it, why haven't they actually done anything about it?

"Well Biden's wanted to, but he's been hamstrung by the extremist right!"

So what about those years when he had full congressional majority?

"Oh well yeah, I mean I guess he could have done more there..."

And then we got called away to the rest of the party and never got to continue.

Bonus points for my insistence that both parties intend on continuing the genocide - but ofc he is going to do it worse somehow. When I said I'm not going to vote for Genocide Light™️, they said, "Hell yeah I am! It's better than the other option!", and I sadly beat a dead horse a little more about there actually being more options available and maybe you actually don't have to put your stamp of approval on genocide-with-rainbow-flag-characteristics.

Also bonus-bonus points for one of the two (very sweet, kickass person generally) asking "So what does genocide mean again?" in a completely honest, non-hostile way, indicating that they simply had not engaged with even the thought of such a thing happening before this conversation.

And these are the two that always get in trouble for being too vocal about their left-ish political opinions at these functions. agony-soviet

[–] [email protected] 11 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

But the one that really chapped my biscuits was saying that if he wins, then [my family member] will lose access to reproductive health care and IVF in particular.

It's always something like this that they only just realized could tangentially affect them or someone they know. Meanwhile my position is with regards to the overall systemic shortcomings that I feel are just as important even if they don't apply to me. Obviously I care about reproductive rights even tho my partner and I are both sterile (by choice), but I want those rights for everyone else even after I leveraged them for myself!

So what about those years when he had full congressional majority?

They are never ready to answer that, or they just punt the issue to the next scapegoat.

Bonus points for my insistence that both parties intend on continuing the genocide...

Yeah, this was a point I tried to make one time and instead of the "other guy is worse" I got the "Kamala isn't Joe" line. Which made my brain reboot and I don't remember after that, lol.

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

ofc he is going to do it worse somehow

Push libs on this and they no response: just how, exactly, will he be worse? What specific actions would he do? Because right now we’re pretty much at the limit of what any administration can reasonably do.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

I've asked many libs this and all they return with is quotes of trump saying he'll do worse. But not how. Trump lies all the time and yet they believe him that he'll somehow do worse this once.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 17 hours ago

Yeah it was pretty much this.

"He said he'll flatten it!"

What, like as opposed to the dems, who will write a very strongly worded letter after the bombs they send over are used to flatten the place?

"Well yeah at least they're writing that letter! Better than no letter! "

maybe-later-kiddo

[–] [email protected] 29 points 21 hours ago (12 children)

Honest question: How do people reconcile their approaches to these situations with what Combat Liberalism instructs? Because Mao says fuck your discomfort and yell at people.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 18 hours ago (4 children)

Combat liberalism is more of a list of Mao's personal grievances in the human condition/behaviour under the label of liberalism than anything else. It's a short text written in the context of instilling party discipline then anything else.

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[–] [email protected] 25 points 20 hours ago

Related - how can we possibly be less "moralistic" when it's a moral question of such magnitude as "should people support genocide"?

[–] [email protected] 21 points 20 hours ago

Personally I think the takeaway from that text in the imperial core context is probably that of class and party collaboration. Your personal relationships with libs are yours to sort out but under no circumstances work to further their bourgeoisie party project.

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[–] [email protected] 26 points 20 hours ago* (last edited 20 hours ago) (1 children)

Yep. This is how LGBT people in the US are cowed to the dems. With fear. With browbeating arguments to "safety" that never seems to materialize (and comes at the expense of the safety of others).

And it works because there genuinely are threats. Hate crimes, etc.

But its always the most comfortable members of the community that place their safety over solidarity. That's what kept me aligned, even before I read much theory, was seeing the absolute most beaten down people in society be the most eager to put themselves on the line when they were able to provide aid to others, or make a change or a statement. If they can do it what's my excuse?

its touched on in an old paper written during the 2014 israeli war on gaza that I really like (CW transphobia mentions):"Even a Freak Like You Would Be Safe in Tel Aviv: Transgender Subjects, Wounded Attachments, and the Zionist Economy of Gratitude"

[–] [email protected] 17 points 19 hours ago (3 children)

The "safety" line is such bullshit. I don't see armed Dems on the line at drag story hour events protecting against the 3%ers across the street. It's leftists that actually show up. All these people do is throw $20 at Human Rights Campaign and go to brunch.

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[–] [email protected] 29 points 21 hours ago* (last edited 20 hours ago) (1 children)

More and more it is ending up in a circular argument where I am painted as unrealistic and my rhetoric (leftist rhetoric) is doing more harm than good because it promotes distrust in the only system we have to work with.

Noticing genocide is more socially unacceptable than committing it. Also, even recognizing a system is dehumanizing, don'tchaknow.

Thanks for reading my rant. It's probably a bit disjointed, but the frustration is boiling over and I needed to vent to the only group of people that seems to understand the hopelessness of being a disenfranchised leftist.

Right there with you. It's lonely enough already without having to worry about losing friends, and it hardly feels like I'm doing everything I can to fight back against the genociders when I can't even talk about it with my loved ones or get them on the right side.

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

I wonder if it's possible to convince these people to protest for Kopmala to enact non-Hitlerite policies with the logic of "well, if you're going to be voting for her anyways..."

[–] [email protected] 11 points 18 hours ago

I don't think so... Most of them are too lazy and complacent to do that, they think exercising their civic duty of voting is enough.

[–] [email protected] 24 points 20 hours ago* (last edited 20 hours ago)

Just point out the last time any progressive legislation was ever written at the federal level was gay marriage and bring them crashing down to earth. The party has zero interest in actually using the power it has to do good for everyone, they are content to fuck over everyone that isn't in a blue state, and everyone in blue states will be fucked over eventually. This isn't a case of IF, it's a case of WHEN, and that only by reckoning with this reality and committing to working for the change that is sorely needed can marginalised peoples truly get on the correct strategic path. The current strategic path being pushed is a dead end and the liberals are content to continue mis-selling it to you because you choose to be naive as a result of the very understandable fear that reckoning with this instills.

Their claims that we are shortsighted and idealist are projections of the naivity they know they are choosing because it's the only hope they have.

This is also a failure of the left though btw. The left is not offering hope, and until the left finds a way to offer hope people will continue to choose naivity if it feels like a possible hope to them.

[–] [email protected] 39 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

Talking to some friends last night and people were like "it has no right to be this close!" With like a tinge of fear. Just want to yell whose fault is that? Why doesn't Harris do ANYTHING to address the mountains of concerns people have... No it's allllllll stupid magas.

Another literally made the but she'll do less genocide argument

[–] [email protected] 28 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

fuckin a... I have very similar conversations over here too. Victim blaming the disenfranchised and touting an aura of superiority over the "dumb magas"

i die a little inside when people try to absolve Kamala of the crimes of Joe... I tried to make the point that her being a part of the administration means she supports it, there is no nuance imo.

[–] [email protected] 29 points 22 hours ago (2 children)

Like you could make some sort of argument that she could be partially absolved... If she did ANYTHING to indicate her resistance. She could trash bidens policies publicly. She could speak via the media directly to Bibi and say that once she's elected she'll immediate stop all shipments. She could illegal-to-say the entire white House.

She doesn't so she's chill with it and gets no absolution.

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[–] [email protected] 36 points 22 hours ago (3 children)

I only have a few friends who aren't lib brain poisoned. they have been hard to find, as some of the "leftists" are just about aesthetics and don't engage with any theory, so the glom onto whatever lib talking point reaches them on a visceral level and then regurgitate it whenever the topic is broached. i.e. "the country has right to defend itself"

the genocide in the Middle East has been more galvanizing than most and I really can't engage honestly with those who downplay it to save their own asses from an imagined genocide of their comfortable, financially secure, upper income asses within the highly developed core. like, sorry reality can't compete with the untethered nightmares of libs.

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[–] [email protected] 25 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

More and more it is ending up in a circular argument where I am painted as unrealistic and my rhetoric (leftist rhetoric) is doing more harm than good because it promotes distrust in the only system we have to work with.

As much as I hate conservatives, you can at least level with them on the front of not trusting their government. They end up as hypocrites and fall in line with any real challenge to American hegemony, however, you can at least get them to admit the system doesn't function well for everyone.

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