Cross posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/40114458

They are big fans of Donut Squad (as am I) so this was cool to recieve.

I (29M) am friends with an ethnically South Korean woman named Angela (35F). I’ve known Angie ever since I was 5 years old! Before the events that are described in this post, she used to love me like a younger brother (not sexually), and she always saw herself as my older sister. She's also much taller than me, and just as a cute gesture, she likes to rest her chin on the top of my head sometimes lol.

Many of my male friends have sexual feelings for Angie. Indeed, she is conventionally very attractive, and she looks like a really elegant female anime character. She’s got shoulder-length black hair and thick bangs. She looks totally feminine, but she’s actually a complete tomboy. Angela loves sports, and has played basketball in university. Even nowadays, she goes running every day after work. Also, most of her friends are men.

This past July, Angela and I went on a hike with two of our male friends, who are now both 28 years old. It was an extremely hot and humid day, so Angela took her shirt off and left it in the car. For the entire day (the disastrous hike lasted hours beyond what we planned for), she wore a very low-cut, spaghetti strap sports bra and basketball shorts, while I and the other two guys were fully clothed. She never wore any backpacks at all or had any bags on her, as we (I and my male friends) took care of that, so my friends started off making light jokes about her being “the princess” which she took pretty well. But it didn’t take long before one of my friends started making comments about Angela’s tight shoulder blades and back. She never takes sexual comments very well, so she just kept her mouth shut and looked nervous as she walked. Eventually the guys played some “prank” on her by yanking the back of her sports bra and almost causing it to rip, and at that point she screamed and started crying. I got us all to stop and take a time out, and I dared my friends to hurt Angela once again. I grabbed her arm and took her away from the idiots to a secluded area, and we had a heart-to-heart moment. She did that gesture where she rested her chin on my head, and then she just sort of collapsed on me and sobbed on me. I put my hands on her shoulders and eventually got her to calm down successfully.

At around 2 PM, we realized that we had no clue where we were and that we were lost. Angela pulled out her phone and saw that it was dead (zero battery) and when she saw it, she started crying again. From this moment on, she couldn’t stop crying, and she never regained her composure for the entire day. She spent several hours sweating heavily too no matter how much water she drank. My friends became deeply remorseful of their earlier sexual comments about her and their little prank, but Angie remained terrified of them, and she visibly kept her distance from us (me and my friends) for several hours as we tried to re-orient ourselves. She kept on muttering and begging us not to touch her, which I thought was heartbreaking. With that being said, she was of no assistance in getting us out of our predicament; I and my male friends had to figure it all out while we just dragged her along with us. We didn’t expect to be stuck in the mountains through the night, and when it fell dark, we relied on our phone lights to lead the way. She spent a lot of time crossing her arms tightly around her breasts as if she was scared that we might touch her, and she screamed whenever we angled our lights away from her (because she didn’t want to be in the dark). In this sense, she was a bit selfish. When we finally got back down to the car, Angela collapsed onto her knees and she was inconsolable.

Nowadays, Angela claims to have been traumatized by our hike. She and I are no longer on speaking terms. She definitely wants nothing to do with my two friends who accompanied us on the hike either.

Is Angela's trauma genuine, or is she just being a crybaby/spoiled brat?

Yes, it is August. Yes, I know. I don’t make the rules.

Can we talk a bit about the mad variance in Santa pricing and experience, and how the two don’t link up at all?

I’ve just spent nearly £50 booking “breakfast with Santa” at a local garden centre because, despite being nearly fifty flipping quid, it isn’t that much more expensive than breakfast for the family without Santa at the same place, and also includes games and balloons for the kids.

There are places near me that sold out last year offering £10 per child for a quick sit on the lap and the customary cheap tat, and had the brass cheek to charge a tenner per parent as well. They couldn’t possibly allow parents to see their child goggling in awe as the God of Christmas asks them what they want without monetising that experience, could they?

A lot of movies I enjoy don't catch my kids attention. But Edge of Tomorrow worked. They're around ten, so violence and a weird premise did it for them.

I'm going to give Galaxy Quest a shot this weekend.

cross-posted from: https://sopuli.xyz/post/23810594

How's parenthood treating you? What's frustrating you at the moment? What little wins and successes have you had recently?

Personally my family and I have all taken turns this December to get ill and it was my turn on Christmas eve and beyond. Still feel a tiny bit rough today and it was a struggle on Christmas day/boxing day but it all turned out nicely and we seem to be getting over it now.

Kids were actually considerate with no drama to deal with which helped immensely :)

Still have a couple more days until everything needs to come down (tree etc) so I'm going to chill for a little while yet.

Up to much this week?

Me personally not much but my son is enjoying drumming and karate. Not at the same time though that would be funny to see.

"....I'm hungry"

"Son, you've been moaning that you're hungry ages before tea, then barely touched your tea saying you're full, and now you're hungry again 20 minutes later. You can finish the tea that's still on the table."

"No. Daaad? I'm hungry"

Hi Dads,

I made a post over in !fedigrow@lemm.ee about possibly consolidating the many dad groups down to just one (at least for now) to encourage activity.

The general consensus was that we focus discussion over at !fatherverse@midwest.social because, among some other reasons, it’s the only community that seems to have an active mod.

I hope you’ll join me in posting over there!

I hope you all have a great day!

For me I think it would to have a full enough English breakfast with the family, a mug of proper coffee, where I don't have to make any of it.

Then selfishly I'd love to spend most of the day on my own without doing any chores or being constantly nagged: watch some F1 if it were to be on, read my book on the sofa, enjoy a small beer (Tiny Rebel, Clwb Tropica).

Then in the late afternoon, go out for some food for some decent pub food or an Indian.

What about you?

First born nipper of seven weeks is well for which I count my blessings. Fresh challenges for daddy though: I don't have the emotional and physical comfort from my girlfriend that I had become accustomed to. Obviously, she is looking after a baby for everything she's worth, with me right behind her. We're breastfeeding. Circumstances conspired for me to get away for a night out a week ago - for the first time - with my best friend and it was wonderful. I was a lot less stressed afterwards and had a lot more to give the next day. But it also reminded me of the time before we had our baby; fun, sex, freedom, all that jazz. We managed to have some rushed sexy time a few weeks ago (thanks grandpa), a couple of brief cuddles and a couple of limited heart-to-heart chats but really I feel like I'm basically just a cook, potwash, caretaker and babysitter. Whilst being hyper-focussed our baby, she also tries her best not to overload me, which I'm grateful for. But I'm not getting much love, care, understanding or respect from anywhere at the moment. Nice moments with my daughter just about keeps me in the game tbh. Do any of you recongnise this? Can you offer any light at the end of the tunnel, recommend what to do? I'm feeling very strapped in. Thanks

Keen to hear any novel ideas (or just the humdrum of your weekend).

Planning on watching Raiders of the Lost Ark and / or Star Trek Voyager with the 10 year old myself. Going on a decent hike and playground with the gang also in the mix.

The usual sports stuff.

Shift handover with mum is at 2am, and it looks like the bab is going to take it to the wire tonight.

There isn't, as far as I can tell, anything actually wrong. The mite just doesn't want to sleep...

We're currently looking to start a family, so I thought I'd hit up YT for some advice as a male and the priority skew is mental. The most important thing is having a boy, apparently. Not tips for being supportive, how to help your partner, how to deal with anxieties about money and time.

Bonus feed

Dad's of Lemmy could you share some good advice for someone just starting a family please :D

I was cuddling with my 20 month year old daughter, who's vocabulary is limited to just "dad" and "hot", on our bed the other evening watching Snail on the Whale, when all of a sudden, after 10 minutes of complete silence, in her cute little voice she randomly babbles: "die bitch". My poker face skills were seriously put to the test.

It's been a fun four years since I last had to have these around the house....but alas it's time to bring the potty out once more.

Hopefully he takes to it as well as his sister. I am not confident.