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That'll teach ya (lemmy.world)
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[–] 42 points 2 years ago (46 children)

This might sound unsympathetic, but it's easy to put someone else in a situation where they must call the police / ambulance.

It doesn't really matter how close a friend is. If you say you're at risk of harming yourself or others, they don't have a lot of options.

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  • [–] 47 points 2 years ago (19 children)

    I work for a mental health crisis line. We are taught, with extremity, to always go for least intrusive intervention possible. We will only ever call Emergency Services after a literal check list to ensure it's the last resort possible.

    Practically the only times we ever call EMS on someone is if they tell us they are actively dying this very second, due to injury or overdose, etc. Or if they, after all of our attempts to listen, empathize, talk about what's going on, talk about how they're feeling tonight, work on what options there might be, who in their lives might be able to help, listing resources, and attempting to safety plan; if after all that, they say "yeah, I'm gonna kill myself specifically in this fashion and I'm gonna do it right now, and I have the means available to me." Then hang up and don't answer when we call back. Then we call EMS.

    It's drilled into us that EMS is expensive for the person, and potentially dangerous because police are often not great at responding to Mental Health emergencies. So always the last last last resort.

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  • [–] 21 points 2 years ago (11 children)

    This so much...

    Emergency services are like the absolute worst dog shit resource for mental health issues. 99% of the time they just make shit worse, I had to learn this the hard way.

    It actually makes me mad that so many people suggest it as what you "should" do if someone is in crisis because it's just not made for that. Do not call 911 if you are having a panic attack or SI or even self harming in a non SI way, they will do nothing to help you and it will just cost a fuck load. Like you said the only time it makes sense is if you are actually dying from an attempt. Even MH practitioners say to call 911 when they should know better. I am glad your place seems to know what's up because so many people get the wrong advice on this issue and it actively hurts people. Maybe if the healthcare and police system were different going to the emergency room or calling 911 might be a good idea, but how they are now its just not.

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  • [–] 6 points 2 years ago

    The group that handles 988, the suicide line, is called Vibrant and they're working with 911 dispatchers all over the country to train them to transfer over to 988 if there's any situation like that instead of handling it themselves.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 years ago (7 children)

    Firstly, this varies by region. Most people don't live in the US, including me.

    Secondly, you're right in that it will be an unpleasant experience for most patients, but the vast majority of patients will survive the episode. Which is the point.

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  • [–] 7 points 2 years ago (6 children)

    In the US, surviving the episode and immediatly going into medical debt is why the second attempt happens with them not reaching out to anyone.

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  • [–] -1 points 2 years ago (5 children)

    Hyperbolic.

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  • [+] 3 points 2 years ago (4 children)
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  • [–] 0 points 2 years ago (3 children)

    You seem to have misunderstood me.

    I understand that in many cases including yours it's a bad outcome.

    However, in some cases where someone is intent on harming themselves and there are no other options at least EMS can prevent the worst possible outcome.

    Besides which, for the nth time, this seems to be an American thing.

    In many countries calling EMS or police for someone having a mental health crisis is perfectly reasonable.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 years ago (2 children)

    So American suffering doesn't matter and we shouldn't talk about it because another European wants to talk about how much better they are than Americans again. This thread is specifically about the American healthcare system, the meme specifically calls out the American healthcare system, you don't need to center yourself in every conversation that isn't about you. Sincerely dude, fuck off.

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  • [–] 11 points 2 years ago* (2 children)

    Alright don't blue ball us, give us the list. I want to know step 1,2,3 on how to handle people like this.

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  • [–] 6 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    This is a really interesting perspective, and obviously you know a lot more about this than the rest of us.

    I think you can probably understand that your own training, experience, expertise, and support gives you a range of other options to implement before calling EMS. The rest of us don't have most of those options.

    There's not much more I can say just because I'm not in the US. Obviously the options will vary by location.

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  • [–] 11 points 2 years ago (9 children)

    So many people seem to only care about life and not dignity. Locking someone up against their will for being suicidal will always be wrong in my mind. Unless they are threatening harm to someone else, then it might be warranted in order to protect the threatend person.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 years ago (8 children)

    Locking someone up against their will for being suicidal will always be wrong in my mind.

    You're entitled to that opinion, of course.

    Contemporary thinking, including that of the mental health care profession, is that thoughts of suicide are the product of illness, and that treatment options are available. Terminal illness or chronic suffering are an exception. If someone has an illness which causes them to harm themselves, it seems appropriate to intervene when no alternative options are available.

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  • [–] 5 points 2 years ago (7 children)

    While I am sure that's true for a lot of cases, I think you have to look at society and the individual as a whole. Lots of people are homeless or struggling to afford food, and they will never break out of poverty completely even if they manage to improve their situation a little. Add on to that the fact we are killing the planet, each other, and nature all at the same time and I don't think suicide is that unreasonable in some cases. This is especially true for disabled people that can't get jobs or have much quality of life and live on peanuts from the government if anything.

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  • [–] -2 points 2 years ago (6 children)

    You're also entitled to that opinion, but you have to acknowledge that it's not commonly held, which is why people will prevent others committing suicide.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 years ago (5 children)

    Maybe look at the upvotes to see which is more popular an idea? Nobody really stops homeless doing anything aside from getting a place to sleep. Euthanasia is also a pretty popular idea for people who are already dying.

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  • [–] -1 points 2 years ago (4 children)

    Are you seriously suggesting that upvotes in a lemmy thread about suicide are an indicator of societal values generally?

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  • [–] 2 points 2 years ago (3 children)

    More reliable than a single person sure. Honestly though I don't care, lemmy is in a better state than several societies anyway.

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  • [–] -1 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    I'm kinda speechless. I don't think I can reason with someone who thinks comment votes indicate sensible positions. Good luck kiddo.

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  • [–] 8 points 2 years ago* (13 children)

    Few people are required reporters and those will be medical workers, public school employees, and people who work for universities for the most part. Calling 911 will get your friend shot by the police in the worst case, and traumatized and in debt in the best case.

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  • [–] 0 points 2 years ago (12 children)

    Few people are required reporters

    So what do you do if a casual acquaintance tells you they're intending harm to themselves or others ?

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  • [–] 3 points 2 years ago (11 children)

    Whatever I feel like. If I care for someone you better believe I won’t call authorities and make their life worse while destroying our relationship.

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  • [–] 0 points 2 years ago (10 children)

    Kinda sounds like you don't have an answer.

    Sure, if your bestie is having a tough time then of course you'll talk to them and do whatever it takes not to call EMS.

    If it's a "casual acquaintance" as I said your options kinda diminish.

    I called EMS for my neighbor once. A few days later his mother came to thank me profusely.

    I'm not in the US though so things work a bit differently here.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 years ago (9 children)

    They are still traumatically carting people away, depriving them of liberty, and not really helping.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 years ago (8 children)

    Obviously the "not really helping" is the critical part of that statement.

    In many cases they help a great deal.

    "Depriving people of liberty" is also an appeal to emotion. While that does happen briefly in some cases, it's not really the norm. I'm sure you'll find that any one in healthcare is only going to do that if the patient is at risk of harming themselves or others. The alternative is allowing people the liberty to harm themselves or others.

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  • [–] 3 points 2 years ago (7 children)

    And I take the stance that people have a right to self harm or self end.

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  • [–] -1 points 2 years ago (6 children)

    Sure ok. That's a cool edgy take, but you have to acknowledge that view will never be widely held.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 years ago (5 children)

    There’s nothing edgy. If someone is suffering enough to want to leave then it’s cruel to force them to stay.

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  • [–] -1 points 2 years ago (4 children)

    Only if that suffering is untreatable.

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  • [–] 3 points 2 years ago

    I get your point but let's not pretend that the world is in a good state and that healthcare can fix all mental or physical issues. Often if you have gotten to the point of suicide it's because you're not treatable or because of external factors like extreme poverty.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 years ago* (2 children)

    I'm sorry, but this seems divorced from reality and resonates in precisely the same way that "pro lifers" resonate when they make a claim that adoption is the answer to abortion. Well, ok, show me where there are lines of people waiting to adopt. Likewise, show me where the infrastructure is to heal all these people.

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