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Keris's situation (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 

Hi everyone,

This is an update regarding Keris (also known as RiikkaTheIcePrincess). Many of you already know of the situation, but if you do not, go check out her posts on this community.

TL;DR Keris is and has been in an abusive situation with their parents in rural Oklahoma. They gave her a seven day eviction notice, and now they have to leave. They are trans, neurodivergent, and have no place to go.

Keris is in desperate need of a place to stay in Minneapolis. She has gotten their ticket and is set to arrive tomorrow at 4:20pm in Minneapolis. The shelters there are night-only, and are not a good fit due to a variety of factors.

If there is ANYONE who can host Keris in Minneapolis for even a couple of days that would be a huge help. They are in a very bad spot right now and could really, really use your help. If you know someone who could host, that works too.

Thank you for your consideration.

Edit 1: if anybody also knows of any programs in Minneapolis that can help get Keris less temporary housing and/or a job that would also be very helpful.

Edit 2: Keris has found someone to stay with in about two and a half weeks. For now, they are going to try and stay in a cheap hotel. Thank you to everyone who came together to support Keris in her time of need. Please keep sending support and kind words their way. Their PayPal is [email protected] for those who have asked.

I love y'all 🫂

Edit 3: It sounds like the place she was gonna stay in a couple of weeks fell through. They did make it to Minneapolis okay and are staying in a hotel. Keris still needs some kind of living arrangement (and friends).

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[–] [email protected] 25 points 7 months ago (2 children)

Do they have a PayPal / Venmo / anything else that we can donate to directly? I don’t live anywhere near there, but I would love to donate towards them being able to stay in a hotel.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Keris does have PayPal. That's very generous of you. I'll ask them about their details real quick.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

I too can chip in some cash (when I get paid tomorrow).

I've got nothing to offer job wise unfortunately, I have no idea how ive made it this far and all my IT experience is DoD.

they want multiple (3 I think) different references kinds of references and information for your entire immediate family (parents, siblings, children) to get clearance, and that can take a couple months at the best of times, usually much longer. You CAN put in notes on clearance paperwork that a family member is estranged but idk if it matters.

Comptia Sec+ cert gets most people in the door tho, and I get an entry level help desk contractor job at about $50K with just that and high school diploma. I've heard much the same about comptia Network+

Powershell or comparable transferable scripting skills are handy too (I am VERY new to powershell in my opinion but somehow others think otherwise)

[–] [email protected] 7 points 7 months ago (1 children)

That's very kind. This situation has been stressful and I've been all over the place mentally, but things are looking better now for Keris. You've been a lot of help so far and I really appreciate it.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

I try, even if it doesn't feel like much. Anxiety is a bitch and I feel incompetent at my job, but if nothing else I can chat with folks in a community I can feel comfortable in, maybe help a few people a little 😅

Edit: and I have learned a new thing that may explain why my body hair is so goddamn persistent and why shaving has always been a pain. Apparently, it's called Pili multigemini, and it's not normal to have 3-5 hairs growing out of a single follicle, in a widespread fashion 😑 yet another thing to discuss with a doctor at some point.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I feel ya. I struggle with anxiety too. I'm glad you feel comfortable in this community.

I did not know that condition existed 😬. Sounds like you got unlucky in the hair department. Hope you can get some solutions from your dr.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

Don't know that I "officially" have it or not but it seems very likely. Benign but annoying. No actual treatment beyond removal via laser/electro that I can see from reading (which I'm fine with tbh, I'd like most/all of it gone anyway)

Standard disposable and electric razors have always been about as effective as a back scratcher to me, which led me to double edged safety razors (which are actually MUCH cheaper) which actually work decently on me.

Electric is fine for just longer hair removal, not so much for the "close shave" without spending like 10 minutes on 1 arm at every conceivable angle (and still missing a lot)

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 months ago

You might could make a post about it on here and ask for others' advice. There's probably other people on here who have it and know the best way to deal with it.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 7 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 7 points 7 months ago

Thank you. I hope they are somewhere safe tonight.