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What is Neurodivergence?
It's ADHD, Autism, OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, aspd, etc etc etc etc
“neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behavior”
So, it’s very broad, if you feel like it describes you then it does as far as we're concerned
Rules
1.) ableist language=post or comment will probably get removed (enforced case by case, some comments will be removed and restored due to complex situations). repeated use of ableist language=banned from comm and possibly site depending on severity. properly tagged posts with CW can use them for the purposes of discussing them
2.) always assume good faith when dealing with a fellow nd comrade especially due to lack of social awareness being a common symptom of neurodivergence
2.5) right to disengage is rigidly enforced. violations will get you purged from the comm. see rule 3 for explanation on appeals
3.) no talking over nd comrades about things you haven't personally experienced as a neurotypical chapo, you will be purged. If you're ND it is absolutely fine to give your own perspective if it conflicts with another's, but do so with empathy and the intention to learn about each other, not prove who's experience is valid. Appeal process is like appealing in user union but you dm the nd comrade you talked over with your appeal (so make it a good one) and then dm the mods with screenshot proof that you resolved it. fake screenies will get you banned from the site, we will confirm with the comrade you dm'd.
3.5) everyone has their own lived experiences, and to invalidate them is to post cringe. comments will be removed on a case by case basis depending on determined level of awareness and faith
4.) Interest Policing will not be tolerated in any form. Support your comrades in their joy!
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So, it's been a minute. Apologies. Life has been overwhelming me lately. School, work, more failed attempts at dating, etc. Please be patient, I have autism (probably) 
I was also reading Devon Price's new book, Unlearning Shame. Definitely recommend. He dismantles shame as a social construct of behavioral reinforcement and the undergirding of the lie that is rugged individualism, and prescribes the cure of building community and understanding social interconnectedness on a deep level. Made me re-examine just how much shame is woven into the fabric of the way I conduct myself and hoo boy it's a lot. I blame my Catholic upbringing.
Anyway, I figured before I dive back into the next chapter it'd be nice to get caught up and see where everyone is at. Share your thoughts here, ask questions, get caught up. I want to make a new post next week but first I have to write an informative speech and then an essay about some story or another
Let's cut down on the decision paralysis with some discussion questions:
- What's new with you, neurodiversity-wise, since the last thread?
- Any points of contention, confusion, or questions from prior chapters?
- Post any thoughts specific to the last chapters that you didn't get to share before.
Tag post to follow.
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I was actually planning on sending a search team out for FourteenEyes since it's been a while. It's been almost 3 months since I read the book so I think I am mostly going to cruise the comments unless I come up with something I feel might be worth contributing.
As far as what's new for me in my ND life, I'm mostly just trying to learn how to navigate my world post-diagnosis at this point. I still can't get a job. It's been 6 months. I am just looking for something that works for me since trying to work in a NT world fucking sucks. I was trying to learn networking and get my CCNA but that sort of fizzled out around the time I realized I was really just going through an extremely long burnout phase. I took a few weeks off of life, did some half ass writing, and then earlier this week, I for some reason decided to pick web development back up. I suck at it and decided to try and get good at it instead, as a change of pace. I don't know if I am doing it for fun, if I wanna get into freelance, or try and get a job. I asked my developer friend if he had to pick between Ruby on Rails or React which would he go with and he said React so I went with it. I am more familiar with JS than with Ruby anyway so sure. In the event that I do get good at it, it will make me hire-able I think. I guess Rails would too but those jobs are fewer and further between.
With that said, I might be looking for a learning buddy or possibly someone willing to act as a mentor so if any comrades are either learning React/MERN stack, or are willing to help me with parts I struggle with hit me up. I was gonna put a post out in chat or programming and still might but I guess I can send out feelers here too?
Moving on, I have a friend who recently got noise cancelling headphones(like designed for shooting ranges) and she loves them. I have another that picked up some Loops noise cancelling earbuds that I didn't know were a thing. I ended up getting some knockoffs and have been using them and holy shit they actually help. I didn't realize just how overstimulation I was getting from noise. They don't completely drown out sound but they make things more bearable. My son is ADHD and loud as fuck and I even wear them around him. They look like normal earbuds so that's maybe a plus for some people. They were def an unexpected part of me "owning my neurdivergence" this year.
Podcast plug: I started listening to "Oh, That's Just My Autism" be Melissa Tacia. In it, she started out selt-diagnosed/curious that she might be, and eventually gets her diagnosis(plot spoiler: ASD and ADHD). But she is such a relatable person and it's been really fun just listening to her talk about a random ASD-related topic and diving in from her personal perspective. I also think she's a closet comrade. She's vegan, has a trans son, and came out as lesbian in a recent ep. She doesn't quote Lenin or Marx per se, but I think it's there somewhere. She's just an all around super chill person.
Other than that, been reading dumb horror books and playing Dyson Sphere Program a lot lately.