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submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

if you call everyone dude and a transfem person gets mad about it, don't get defensive. just say like "sorry, i won't do it again" and don't argue "actually it's gender neutral" or "i call everyone dude". even if you do, i guarantee she's heard that argument from someone who very much does not call people they see as women dude. i certainly have

same goes double for the word guy.

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[-] [email protected] 25 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

The women I speak to about this all essentially boil down to "yeah I don't like it but it's so small I just ignore it" and I can feel hundreds of thousands of feminists turn in their graves each time I get that explanation.

Trans women are good for women for the simple fact that trans women absolutely do not accept all the tiny little things cis women have always just put up with due to a lifetime of it and not wanting their entire existence to always be conflict. Trans people don't have a fucking choice, life is conflict, so fuck it, every little thing shall be fought.

[-] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

Trans people don't have a fucking choice, life is conflict, so fuck it, every little thing shall be fought.

unfortunately i know too many trans people that don't feel like fighting and just give into it bc it's easier to "seem normal" than it is to stand up for themselves. it sucks! (i've struggled in that way before too.)

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