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What are your core values? (lemmy.world)

submitted 9 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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authenticity -> real and genuine
autonomy -> seperate individual (not enmeshed)
curiosity -> growth mindset and learning constantly
growth -> improving functioning and increased awareness of change and adapting to new circumstances
peace -> absence of conflict and abnegation of other people's drama/entitlements
pleasure -> enjoying or benefitting from the actions I take and consequences of those I maintain relationships with
respect -> genuine care for recognizing and upholding other's needs where it is safe and not incompatible with your own
reciprocity -> balanced approach to give/take and being mutually-attentive to signs of imbalance
safety -> avoiding things, people, places, situations that hurt you or cause you to be unable to enforce the protections you need to accomodate yourself in the context
stabillity -> expectation of consistency and balance and sustainabillity in one's relationship with anything/anyone.

These are sort of a rough outline of mine, how about yours Lemmings? Mine aren't exhaustive but these are the core simplest profile I could break down. Feel free to steal anything and add to your collection ;)

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago (1 children)

The only one you're off on is action / reaction. That's about doing what I ethically decide to do rather than obeying the desires of my body or my brain.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

autonomy (doing this because you need them done and not from external influence or coercion)

Your example is seemingly compatible with the description I gave, autonomy means someone/thing isn't arbitrarily pulling your strings and unduly influencing your outputs, I wasn't pitting your ethics against your needs. I would argue that your ethics are needs in a sense altho I might not be able to necesarily vigorously defend that on a technical level for now

Autonomy is basically are you an agent or principal when it comes to your life and your abillity to control the things that belong to you. For example, your parents are not entitled to any of your body, mind, emotions, etc, they belong to you and they must not be subject to arbitrary control from anybody else, otherwise there's almost certainly gaslighting and you're probably dying inside a little more every time you deny yourself agency