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‘Andrew Tate is a symptom, not the problem’: why young men are turning against feminism
(www.theguardian.com)
this post was submitted on 04 Feb 2024
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If men and boys are finding current models of masculinity to be difficult - which is what Tate et al prey on - perhaps they have more in common with feminists. The patriarchy harms everyone.
It's actually not all that difficult to respect women. Which will work well in 99% of scenarios.
The other 1% are interactions on the internet which has a tendency to magnify the weirdos. The "you gotta do this and this and this to even go on a date with me" types are internet weirdos. Most women aren't actually like that. But it's the internet, so a woman saying "just respect me as a person, and we're cool" isn't going to gain traction in the algorithms.
So guys like Andrew Tate are weirdos that gain traction as a reaction to the the other weirdos.
Go outside, touch grass, respect women as people, and everything will be alright.
It's not difficult for sane people to respect women.
These aren't sane people.
These are people who long for the days when women were property.
Some are, but I would bet a large amount of people who believe/follow that similar ideology could be able to see how destructive it is.
Avoid tribalism
The people who most need to hear your message are the ones least likely to see it as an advantage. Tribalism is a core tenet of conservatism, where the majority of misogyny comes from.
You're right, I just see a lot of liberal/left leaning people who fall into the same trap and demonize everyone of the "other team", I have talked several people out of their preconceived religious/conservative notions by specifically not demonizing them for their views, but instead trying to understand the underlying reasons for their belief and then showing data/evidence to the contrary and producing alternative viewpoints.
For example, HRC's "Deplorables" comment, yeah there are a lot of shitty people that voted for Trump, but there's also a lot of people who were duped into believing or did it on a whim just as "something different".
There was another thread recently about my fellow idiots in Texas calling to succeed, and a lot of people in the thread basically saying things like, "Good, fuck em" all the way to "Yeah let's go in with the military and take them out" like jfc, the people calling for that are a vocal minority. I am actively working to get out of this state because of the fucked up legislature, but I know so many good people who live here and are just trying to make it through the day like the rest of us.
Sorry, anyone who voted trump twice deserves to lose their citizenship rights. Period.
Don't even, it will not work on me because I lived in a deep red state most of my life and can speak of the personal opinions of well over a thousand conservative sons of the soil and I GUARAN-FUCKING-TEE that I can count on the hands of a clumsy shop teacher how many of them are legit oldschool conservatives.
Now tell me if the same can be said of blue states and hard lefties? No? Why not?
Because there ARE NO hard left politicians in any position of meaningful power in the united states.
Don't even come at me with a shadow of a 'both sides' argument because I will froth at the mouth for hours with sincere joy to explain to you why the republican party is a legit threat to the stability of our nation and HAS BEEN for more than 4 decades.
Not even a SHADOW
The republican party is definitely a threat, but that doesn't mean every republican citizen is also a threat for the same reason, they're basically brainwashed, some of them can be talked out of their incorrect beliefs.
I agree though as well that there are basically no hard left govt officials in any meaningful sense.
If they are brainwashed they are even more of a threat because they will lash out at anyone who challenges their assumed identity.
You seem to think that they were wholly duped into this, instead of the fact that the rot in their heart is what made them susceptible to the ravings of a madman.
Yes, it's true, they can. I have done it. Twice.
Twice out of probably 1500 people in my life.
So yes, you aren't wrong, but you are right in such small numbers as to make no difference.
Does it feel good to pierce a hole through their ignorance and let them see the light?
Sure.
Will it change the outcome of this election, not very likely.
So let's spend our energy on the valid targets: fence sitters and dems that aren't planning on voting.
I think the difficulty stems from the growing disparity in wealth. As it continues to grow, fewer women are available for most men. They just gravitate towards the top.
It's why we have people like Andrew Tate having sex with literally thousands of women while regular men kill themselves.
contemporary feminism (and the wave immediately before) have done a lot more for me than how men have told me I 'ought' to act. fine, I'm not as manly or a man as far as some are concerned. what is really annoying is the apathy and close-mindedness of most of these men who interacted with me negatively.
asking a few questions is enough to make them emotional (which is fine when they do it and not ok when others do it in a way unlike their own) and more intensely emotional than nearly all women i've interacted with. that too is fine, it becomes a pain when i'm taken to be some kind of enemy or other by standards it seems like they cannot apply to themselves.
i want to say they are gaslighting, only, i really don't think it's intentional. there's a genuine misunderstanding and that's annoying as heck.
Instead of emancipating from dehumanising and rigid gender norms for men, it seems like these Tate fans and red pillers and sigma, alpha men are trying to turn back the clock.
You want to tell them: "Stop, you are running into the wrong direction!"
It's the same misunderstanding about 'alpha wolves', they believe that a powerful self-actualized person is one who acts like wolves driven to mental illness by captivity.
So much of our media glorifies the 'hypercompetent power broker' image, the 'great man' concept of Napoleon's image that in many circles if you do NOT idolize that radioactive image as a goal for self-transformation, you are considered irrelevant and weak.
It's all regressive, it's all a response to stress and shrinking opportunity.
Humankind only got to where we are now by cooperation, almost zero humans today are truly self-sufficient, yet these chucklefucks think the only worthy person is one who takes advantage of everyone around them to their own self-benefit.
It is literally the polar opposite of what has lifted man out of naked apes in the savanna.
'return to monke' is a really terrifying meme if you understood the emotion it harnessed and the direction it flings it.
I agree with most of what you're saying but would mention return to monke also refers to the system of capitalism most live under being a crushing weight that we wish we didn't have to deal with anymore, it is somewhat alluring to return to a time where you just have to survive, rather then waves hands around whatever it is we do now.
I don't particularly agree with the sentiment, as I understand how much better off we are, even if capitalism is a soul crushing machine.
you may not accept it but 'return to monke' was stared by the Boogaloo Boys and if you know who they are you know why this is a problem.
Do you have any source for that? It sounds just like people who think pepe is a hate symbol...
When in reality, it was just co-opted by the racists and the MSM decided it was then only a hate symbol.
That depends how comfortable you are with searching the darkweb. Some of their forums are still up.
shitler co-opted a certain now worldwide hated symbol too, the hard right loves taking innocent things and staining them with blood.
OK, so some "dark web" source that you insist is definitely proof that they created return to monke, as opposed to the alternative on know your meme cataloging the first example?
Look man, nothing I will tell you will change your mind.
Go see it for yourself and form your own opinion.
In that respect ("this is a problem") yes, we have commonality with feminists.
But then, feminists will say "you men need to sort your own shit out", which is not at all helpful. We need help. And if you're refusing to help us, while also ridiculing us for needing help, well is it any wonder men don't identify as feminists?
There's sill a ton of 'rugged individualism' propaganda to dismantle before they are comfortable enough with their masculinity to admit that everyone is at least a little bit gay. I mean I personally know of at least two redneck 'good ol boys' that ended their own life than face the fact that sometimes boys can be cute too.
And that's not even mentioning the fact that some states still accept the 'gay panic' defense.
Hypermasculinity has never been a natural aspect of human nature but to the patriarchy it is the ideal man. To become that you must mutilate yourself in a way that erodes empathy and trust in others.
And many, many men have actively taken that psychic self-mutilation. So many to the point that they are proud of their bleeding wounds.
Yeah
A patriarchy has been around for as long as civilization has, and its most harmful effects have clearly diminished over the past 100 years. This does not explain the issues that young people deal with that their parents and grandparents didn't.
Dang bro almost got it
You did?
What does this have to do with anything?
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