196

16442 readers

1596 users here now

Be sure to follow the rule before you head out.

Rule: You must post before you leave.

^other^ ^rules^

founded 1 year ago

MODERATORS

[email protected]

980

Thomas rule (lemmy.world)

submitted 9 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

75 comments fedilink hide all child comments

you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments

[–] [email protected] 6 points 9 months ago (1 children)

It's the complaining about it--asserting your correctness to everyone around you--that makes someone the asshole.

Everyone always thinks they're right. If you didn't think you were right to act a certain way, you would do something different! Acknowledging afterwards that you were wrong and made a mistake is what makes someone tolerable.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago

I don't know about that. I certainly think I'm right when I do something, but I have a healthy dose of imposter syndrome, so I tend to do a lot of testing before hand, and when something goes wrong I assume it's my fault until I can prove otherwise.

It always seems strange to me when people need to be proven wrong. Usually when I'm wrong, I'm the person who figures it out, because I always assume problems are my fault.

The weird thing is, this leads to an enormous amount of trust in me by others, which I find exceedingly uncomfortable.