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The dating pool (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 10 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago (2 children)

They could not respond, just be present at home with their family.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

Yes, I suppose we could just become more silent and withdrawn, couldn't we?

Let me try a different tack. I know I have issues. I've been working on myself for years. As men, we mostly experience negative reinforcement with emotional growth.

But if we are trying to get healthy, how are we supposed to respond to that kind of invalidating talk, inside our own heads? What if the woman saying that kind of stuff isn't just venting her frustration onto the internet, what if she's saying it to us, in a relationship? Does that kind of talk inspire us to improve or push us into darker places? Is complaining about us like this in any way helping to improve the way men and women interact?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

Once again you're making it the woman's job to help you improve yourself. You're going to see and hear things that put you in a dark place. That's life. Bringing yourself back to a middle ground of contendedness requires constant self work.

I'm sorry you have problems. Not everyone breaks the wheel.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago

Well I appreciate your input. I agree that it's not a woman's job to help us improve ourselves, but you haven't convinced me that this sort of complaint benefits anyone.

And no kidding. This is going to take a lifetime of work.