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It feels like no matter where I turn some septuagenarian, or older, is making life miserable for myself and others. Usually these are older white Christian conservatives, obsessed with a delusional sense of reality that no longer has a basis in fact, or perhaps never did.

There is a disproportionate amount of wealth concentrated in the older generation and those who will inherit it will probably be even worse with that money than the last generation. Certainly we see evidence of that already, anyone in their 30's who has parents who help them out VS those who don't have that have radically different outcomes. For some reason those lucky enough to come from good families ascribe laziness and bad attitude to those who don't have the family support, as if they are somehow enjoying "self made success" while mummy does their laundry for them.

No generation previous needed this kind of assistance well into adulthood, but this infantilisation of working adults has happened because of the hoarding of wealth, refusing to pass on the torch in workplaces and just blocking change for the sake of stoking petty politics. Most of us will never own our own home but all the politicians want to talk about is whether it's OK to dehumanise trans people or not.

I'm 36 this year. For most of my teens I thought there'd be some kind of tipping point where the conservative boomers would fuck off or at least let the next generation step in, but that hasn't happened. Back in the 1990's you could be a girl and wear jeans and be empowered, now this is considered some kind of woke statement. As if we recently invented this idea of women and men being equal.

The faces of my two dogs, my cat and my husband are all that keep me going. Knowing they need me gives me just enough to get out of bed in the morning and start moving... but I'm struggling to do even that without having a breakdown. My husband and I have medical expenses we can't afford and are borrowing money to survive right now. I run my own business and just feel this immense pressure on my shoulders, that again is compounded by how unfair the world is right now.

Anyone got any advice for coping with this late stage capitalist hellscape?

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 10 months ago (2 children)

don't mean just Gen-Z and maybe Millenials, I mean people your age even

They said they're 36. That's millenial. At 41, I'm what Iliza Schlesinger coined an Elder Millennial (a little under two months older than Iliza herself).

Great comment otherwise, though, and I sincerely hope you find your coping method(s)!

[–] [email protected] 9 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (2 children)

It is really weird how no one can imagine generations getting old. It's like they think millenial is slang for teens, and Gen z is slang for younger kids.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

I wouldn't mind splitting the difference and being 30 again tbh 😄

It's that perfect middle where you're (just barely) old enough that most people take you seriously (or at least don't dismiss you based on youth alone), but also young enough that your body doesn't ache from approaching middle age yet 😉

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago

What is weird for me is seeing people who are supposedly in my cohort act like they are twice my age.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 10 months ago

Gen-Z and younger Millenials

The above is what I probably should have said. Interestingly (to me at least:-D), historically "Millenial" used to refer to what is now called "Z", it once having been the term used to describe the generation that came after "Y", but has shifted all the way over to now having absorbed Y and then replacing it entirely.:-P But yes, in 2018 (according to Pew) that situation finished switching and the old Z is now the new Y - though if you google search these terms, most results are how to market to these groups, and that likely confuses things further.

What I mean is that imho it is best to take these terms extremely loosely - e.g. an elder Millenial may share more in common with a late-stage Gen-Xer ("righteous dude!", e.g. having watched similar TV programs even if as re-runs) than with the later half of what is now called "Millenial", and similarly late Millenials with earlier Gen-Zs (no cap no skibidi, def no Ohio), and so on.

Though whether someone has rich parents or not seems to override all other factors such as generation or responsibility to work hard and save money for the future, when talking about owning a home:-(.