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Oh for sure, I just felt that it was presented as too simplistic and doesn't apply to everyone, imho
I'm sure it doesn't apply to everyone. That said, I'm almost certain it applies to more than just a couple of people, myself included. That's why I've made an active effort to connect and reconnect with people over the last six months or so and will continue to do so in 2024. Its not a solution for every single person. Some people would benefit greatly from it though. Interacting with real humans (as long as they arent toxic) is a good thing for most people.
Yeah, you're right, and I agree.
I just thought the OP's blunt way of putting it was not conducive to making people understand, you know?
Of course it doesn’t apply to everyone. If it doesn’t, just don’t do it.
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If you buck and resist the post, it’s for you
Well, no
If you have a resistance to going outside, it’s for a reason, and probably one a bit deeper than “just being lazy” or whatever strange Protestant work ethic reason we give for people not doing things
It implies an actual issue that needs to be solved, then going outside spontaneously will be much easier, and there would be no resistance
In fact, the people who are resisting are probably the ones least able to benefit from this post- The ones that actually benefit are those who would have made plans, but forgot to. Those people likely wouldn’t have much resistance at all to it.
People who are resistant to it are socially anxious, have some form of physical issue which makes it maybe not impossible, but likely exhausting and painful, or are simply introverted and find social interaction extremely costly, even if fulfilling.
You can’t “just bootstraps” any of those things. In fact, I think our tendency to respond to these issues by simply telling people to “just bootstraps” is deeply simplistic and harmful. Why do we make strange, unhinged rants, telling people to do things they likely already want to do, when we could be asking what stops them, and helping them with that? Why do we assume others are fundamentally different from us or merely didn’t consider the possibility that we are doing the superior thing, rather than wanting the same things as us and meeting obstacles?
If we can’t overcome that attitude, how can we trust any analysis or beliefs we have about the rest of the material world? Why do we abandon the social perspective the moment it challenges our already ingrained beliefs about personal success and hard work?
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