Well put. My boss had been polite and factual when she gets "angry".

But don't be too factual or you will be Linus

Both are bad IMO. Sometimes when morale is low, you don't need constant berating to break your spirit.

Being polite doesn't mean being passive-aggressive. I can tell you that I completely disagree with your opinion without calling you "a brainless ape that should've fucking stayed in school because your dumb ass cannot comprehend the simplest matters".

THIS SO MANY TIMES.

If you cant tell the difference between passive aggression and politeness, you gotta talk to someone about learning. Big big big difference there.

Yeah this kind of attitude is never a productive strategy unless you want to surround yourself only with assholes. It also demonstrates a complete lack of ability to manage humans and keep your values straight when you become upset and stressed out, which is a massive red flag to hold up as someone running a project.

In general it seems like a lot of people get into computers because they think it is a magic fantasy land where you don't have to practice people skills and interact with other humans.... when like every other industry after a certain seniority in a project it always, always, always comes down to managing humans and human interaction skills. The idea of the tech wizard programmer who can be an asshole because they are a genius at coding is just so tired at this point.