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[–] [email protected] 29 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Wow. Just wow. This is such an eye-opener. I mean, with all the comments here.

I had no idea this was a common thing! Up until now I thought only my girlfriend was like this.

Also, this makes me understand a Christmas present I received many years ago. I never understood the meaning of it and never knew from whom I received it and why (so I couldn't ask about it), it was just under the Christmas tree next to a book I received. This "gift" was just a note on a piece of very thin wooden sheet, it said "Is it necessary to find a solution to every problem? Can't we just enjoy the problem for a little bit?"

Now it kinda makes sense, although I still don't know why I received it. Yes, I am a very solution-oriented person, but I'm also very introverted, back then I didn't have a girlfriend, I had no friends, I didn't even talk with my family much, and honestly, I couldn't even really find solutions to problems in the first place. I have no clue what made someone give that to me.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago

Probably your mom.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Same here. After marriage, I did learned to tone down on this.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

People notice you more than you think they do. You may think you didn't talk to people much but that means it was non zero and people tend to listen.

People will want to dwell on the problem for a bit so they can fully feel their feelings. They feel cut off and stunted if they're not allowed to.