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[-] [email protected] 5 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Look, i get that this is painful for you and you need to vent, i understand and respect that, and i feel super fucking bad for posting this, but could you please put your future posts about this in spoiler tags? I've completely stopped posting on here about how i'm struggling through the approval process for my own surgery entirely out of consideration for you, and this happens to come at a time when the entire coverage of gender affirming surgeries through the public healthcare system in my country is under attack,

CW: discussion of gatekeeping, sui***idality, surgery, bottom dysphoria, legal struggleswhile some of my friends are openly losing their will to live because they do not know if they can ever afford their surgeries and live dysphoria-free when they have to pay out of pocket for it, while my own case file is lost somewhere in a buerocratic limbo with the threat of termination looming overhead, and the best case scenario for me is that i will still have to wait for over a year until i get the genitals i need to live a dignified life, if it ever comes to that in the first place,
and then i have to see posts like this in a thread that should be a safe space for people in my situation. That's just too fucking much. I can't handle that any longer. It fucking hurts every time and it's not getting better and nobody else is saying anything about this.

Once more, i can relate to your pain, and you have as much right as i do to share your story here. That's valid and ok. I'm not denying that, i do not want to belittle or downplay your experience even when experiences like yours are actively instrumentalized to harm our community and me. That's not your fault, not your intention and you shouldn't receive any blame for that. I'm just saying that what you are posting is highly triggering material for many other trans folks for the reasons i've outlined above and you shouldn't just put something like that out there without an appropriate warning.

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