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Is coming on too strong emotionally a trauma response or something (hexbear.net)

submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I do this by default when trying to establish relationships with people and my track record is not good.

Though believe it or not, sometimes it does not turn people away!

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 10 months ago

I'm pretty sure it is. At least it is for me. I don't know how to talk about stuff at an appropriate level sometimes (autism and ADHD don't help LMAO) and so I've got a problem of too much or too little sharing.

I've had somebody reach out and think they were helping me by giving me a chance to open up, but when I did, they got really uncomfortable and then I felt like I was trauma dumping.

It's like a faucet sometimes. Sometimes nothing comes out. Sometimes everything. But I'm very judicious about it these days so I'm just set to 'locked in.'