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[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I don't know about you, but for me it's the intrusion, I'm not always free or in a frame of mind to have certain, or even any, conversations, and notifications intrude on that, and ignoring them can be hard. I'd rather be in control of what conversations I have and when.

It also helps to remember that at the end of the day people on the internet are generally random strangers to each other, and none of us owe each other our attention, time, or energy.

I don't really see it as anything I need to get over, but if it bothers you taking it slow and steady is the way to go!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Yeah for me it’s really gotten easier since I’ve started doing streaming games online and talking with various people and stuff. Having people come and go and figuring out when someone is being kind or rude has helped a lot for figuring out when to engage, avoid, and even remove.

It’s easy for me to ignore different comments and just let it be, but I do really think about what I say before throwing it out there which is most of the stress, but it’s always getting better!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Sounds like you've figured out some great ways to work on the stress aspect - the fact that it gets easier is fantastic!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Yeah it feels like I’m just responding to everything now! I don’t even know who I am anymore

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Lol, there you go! All you needed was to take that first step, and the rest has been taken care of for you just by nature of how asking a question works 😁

Just remember - worst case? Abandon this account and start another 😂

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago

Haha Id love to keep this name so I’d just have to abandon to another instance! Thanks again for being so chill and helpful!