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How to handle "you're too sensitive" and other similar remarks? (lemmy.world)

submitted 11 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I'm learning that being told "you're too sensitive" and other such remarks is considered gaslighting. However, as autistic individuals, we are known for being highly sensitive, both with perceptions and emotions. So, I find myself wondering if perhaps I need to consider that I am more sensitive than the general population and accommodate what I see as their insensitivity, dismissiveness, and blame-shifting.

How do you handle being told "you're too sensitive"?

What do you think would be a healthy response?

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

I am pretty far gone on that journey, have always known the consequences. Had to leave a marriage because of this, will not ever work a big job again (despite having multiple higher degrees) and willingly so. Will walk away from everything eventually. All because the alternative sucks so horribly that I prefer it this way.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago

Absolutely. Not having a something is (almost always) better than having "problems" with that something, incl. people.

I didn't know about my autism till recently, 40 years of age. Was "misdiagnosed" in the 90s, or my mom just didn't want to hear the diagnose when I was younger with the hope I'd turn out okay, despite my very clear struggling at school/work for 28 years, which was when and why I moved country, where I now similarly struggle.

So I do realize that cutting people off as easily as we want is just a symptom of ours. Even when angry, others (NT) will soon get over it, even if we (ND) still hold an extreme grudge. Even though it also feels extremely good to get rid of them, it's not a cure for this world, or our world.

I'm just trying to say it might be really hard for some people to cut others off, like I sure have done, and still have some "community" or support around them. To become self-sufficient, before turning to negative thoughts so to say. It sucks, and I know there is little help. Just tossing some virtual coins into the fountain here, wishing some youngster might get a better life than mine knowing what they're about to go up to. Despite all the gaslighting going on.