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Honestly I don't even have the means to meet people, let alone dating. I recently moved to a new state I'm unfamiliar with, with nothing around me that interests me enough to go out. Everything I wanna do I can just do at home, so I'm just kinda wallowing in loneliness
I'm also autistic so that comes with another entire set of problems ๐
Motivational, it helps if you orient your thinking not towards the activity itself but how the activity can facilitate meeting people. ime, at least
Oh yeah for sure, I just don't have anything I actually like doing that facilitates that. I mostly smoke weed, play games, and make music, all of which I can do that at home.
I'm not really a multiplayer kinda person and don't often play with others, (which is funny cause if someone asked me to play with them in something I would, even if I wasn't really into it) so even amongst things I like I just tend to keep to myself.
I'm probably not really helping my own case but social media is toxic and I've been through a lot of trauma basically making it really difficult to interact with others, even when I really want to. I even have trouble interacting with comrades here, most times I just kinda lurk.
This is the one that seems like the best option in general. Can you find other musicians in your area?
I wouldn't really know where to start, lol. I'm a music producer so everything I do is on my computer.
My friend, do you think there aren't a ton of musicians out there who would kill to get a good producer? Guitarists who struggle to write drum parts? Skilled players who struggle to write anything decent? It totally depends on who happens to be around, but there's a world of possibility out there for someone who loves production and is decent enough at it!
Yeah, it would be better if you could jam, but it's not needed. Besides, if you use a midi controller, it's a small step to keyboard, and getting better st playing will help your writing (and make it more fun, imo).
I can't guarantee it'll work out, but I also can't stress enough that, based on what you have said, you've got a good shot.
I am sorry about your situation comrade, and wish that things get better for you ๐.
What made you move out of state?
Thanks, I appreciate it ๐๐ฟ
Had to escape an abusive situation and homelessness. It's not even like the area I was living in was bad, just frustrating mainly cause of the paradox of being too expensive to live but too expensive to leave.