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Making close friends as an adult (beehaw.org)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Hi everyone! I'm in my late 20s and I've been reminiscing on my young adult life and what I like/don't like. One point that has been coming up for me is close, vulnerable friendships. I used to have a few friends who I was very close to a few years ago, who I could talk to about deep life stuff, big emotions, vulnerable feelings and worries, and also just enjoy time together discussing silly/serious media or the world.

I have since lost these friends, one way or another. Some simply drifted, some left in a flurry of drama and hurt feelings. I thankfully kept some friends, but a lot of them have been lost.

Despite the volatility of those friendships, there was something I was getting from them that I really needed and still need. I think that need is simply the human desire for close companionship. I have a partner, and he's wonderful; he's not particularly feel-y however, and my friends aren't either. I think I need more emotionally-vulnerable people.

My question is this... How does one make these friends as an adult? In fact, how does one make any friends as an adult? I'm finding myself not knowing how to proceed and find other emotional folk. Any advice would be appreciated. <3

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

I find it a lot easier to make friends as an adult because I have the spare time and disposable income to participate in hobbies, and if you spend enough time at a hobby, you end up running into the same people over and over again. Don't just expect things to fall into place though, it's important to take initiative sometimes and be the person who strikes up a conversation or organizes activities.