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rule is it weird that i call things gay (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I grew up with an older brother who would call things gay in a derogatory way back when we were teenagers and i also picked up the habit even though I had never met a gay person and have never had (and still dont have) any hate for them or anyone regardless of sexual preference or gender identity

I still call things gay tho to this day, usually when something kinda annoying happens (e.g. that was kinda gay when the teacher made us do extra homework)

I'm sure there are people who might feel hurt about that so i filter myself when meeting new people and i generally use it less these days but it happens sometimes

Anyone else relate to this?

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

For some mysterious fediverse reason I only just got a notification to this comment now!

I'm glad the article was helpful/comforting to you, and I'm sorry to hear about your good friend, that really sucks. I've had sadly a few friends and family go that way myself, and had no choice but to cut them off because it was just intolerable. I really wish there was this switch you could just pull to get them to see how disconnected from reality they've become, and who their bullshit is actually serving, but alas, it seems we either wait it out and hope for the best, or give up, because those who don't want to hear it, never will.. 😕

But on a more positive note - the more you learn from people like that what you're not ok with, the more people who actually share the same values as you you will meet!