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When I make a new friend online and we hang out a lot in a short space of time, I find myself hyperfocusing on wanting to interact with them. I try my best to hold myself back to what would be an acceptable level. It gets to a point where I feel like almost nothing else matters but their next response.

Does anyone else have this? If so, is there a coping technique I can do to reduce it or make it more bearable?

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Is there like a book that teaches neurodivergent people how to make and maintain friendships? Cause I feel like this is something a lot of us do without realizing

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

This is probably why we gravitate to each other.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Not that I know of, but I've been really thinking about a writing a publication of some sort that guides autistic people on how to raise themselves. I think it would be a helpful guide since society is tailored towards guiding allistics. I'd need help from other autistics and allistics though.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Collaborative writing can be a little like parallel play, could work. I would contribute, I fell through the grid undiagnosed and had to figure everything out myself

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Asperger syndrome and long term relationships. Woman author, last name Wiley, I think. She talks about her relationship with asperger partner.

The ethical slut. Odd, but it helped a lot, taught me how to communicate with people.

How to win friends and influence people. A bit cheap, scammy like. But has few good parts.

Go online, research the different ways autism peeps and neurotypicals communicate. Really fascinating. When autism people think of communicating, it's the sharing of thoughts, ideas. Neurotypicals, it's about elaborate rituals, almost a dance, they need it to know they're included, have been accepted into the social group.

Fascinating from an anthropology perspective.