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[–] [email protected] 168 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (4 children)

what about stop gatekeeping stuff and profiling people in very limited groups?

I'm a "cis dude" who has many times dressed up with feminine costumes, I also have lots of gay friends, I like jazz dancing, love going to see a good ballet, have gone to pride parades as an ally, called out homophobic comments in casual conversations... but guess what? I think some costumes are beautiful and I don't want to limit myself to the ones in one gender.

I wouldn't mind being approached with transition information, I would politely explain that is not for me, but I don't like the tone of the meme assuming that if you cross dress for Halloween you are either a trans person or a "bro" that wants to hurt LGBTQ+ people.

I'm going to go wild and assume that is American, which always is "all or nothing" for them, and everything is a fight. Sometimes people just want to have fun. Leave us the fuck alone with all these rules of what is appropriate and what is not and gatekeeping everything. The American left DEI mentality is anything but inclusive, and is very confrontational to the point of working against what it is suppose to defend. You sound like the catholics of the 19th century (or the right winger catholic freaks of America that I see on TV)

my 2 cents. sincerely, an European left winger

[–] [email protected] 35 points 1 year ago

Found the furious cis dude /s

[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Exactly! Like, have you considered letting people enjoy things, especially when it comes to gender expression?

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

solving hate with hate is the human way

for a group that wants everyone to love each other it has a lot of internal prejudice. im very pro lgbt and allowing men to have feminine qualities tho.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

The post neither implies nor states that 'closet trans' and 'shitty cis' are the only possibilities. There's obviously a lot of cis men who would take the offer of transition information in stride. The OP isn't judging you.

As for the whole American thing, you're right, you did go wild.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Not sure I agree there, the term win/win suggests they've listed both possibilities and both are a win. It implies a no lose scenario and therefore that all options have been presented.

Buying a lottery ticket I could win £10 or I could win £10 million, it's win/win!

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Don't allow it to call you cis either, it's derogatory.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

it's...factual, tho?

do you not want to be called human either?

what do you prefer? dog?