Basically being left out of the group but for life 😀
this post was submitted on 15 Oct 2023
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I have trouble making friends but this seem a little over the top to me.
I don’t like new people. Nobody does. How are you supposed to like someone you don’t know anything about? Friendship takes time and immediately assuming everyone hates you isn’t going to help. You’re correct, they don’t like you but you’re wrong if you assume they dislike you.
Also if you do happen to find someone who's knee jerk reaction to meeting a new person is to hate is not a person to befriend.
I think this comment explains why making friends post-high school has never worked for me. You’re just expected to meet a random person and make some sort of connection with them right away and/or find a way to keep in contact with them
I know people who are able to do this without trying and I’m so jealous
Even worse - you make a connection with some you think is cool then you find out afterwards they’re a chud.
This is one of my biggest issues. I have a D&D friend who I've known for over 2 years and he's starting to show hints of chuddery. It's really difficult for me to ignore and it's making me like him a lot less as a person.
But what am I supposed to do? It's difficult just to meet strangers and for a connection to develop. Expecting they're on the same page as you politically on top of that is almost never going to happen.