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submitted 2 years ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

Warning: r slurs in the follow ups in the thread.

https://twitter.com/puella_meiberu/status/1708621428327657816

my reactions are as follows: Even if thats true, which it isnt for every autistic person, the reality is right now is that jobs dont have accomodations for neurdivergent thinking so its irrelevant to say that. Like we can push for and advocate for more inclusive workplaces, but its not the reality autsitic people are dealing with rn.

Especially since like, there are jobs that autistic people can do well but most of them are not "entry level" jobs that anyone can get without qualifications. Retail and food service jobs are near impossible for most autistic people and those are the jobs you can get easy. Manual labor jobs arent much better. I've worked at an after school program but I only lasted as long as I did because my original boss let me get away with not "running activities" the reality is that even if you're good with kids like me most jobs with kids have expectaitons that arent just "being good with kids" that arent good for autistic people. Idk about office stuff.

It reminds me of my ex-friend who claimed to be communist but had a lot of reactionairy attitudes. He always told me that if I ever called him on something and told him it was ableist he would take it seriously, and even called out others when they treated me abliestly. But one day when he posted on his Twitter shitting on Spoon Theory I texted him to call him on that and he started ranting all this shit about how you can "always push through" and talking about how his manual labor job cured his depression (and acting like that will be the case for everyone if they just push, and that manual labor is a cure all) and then started accusing me of wasting my life and making excuses and using my disability as a criticism shield. We no longer talk much lol.

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[-] [email protected] 7 points 2 years ago

Currently I'm the midst of burning out hard with many financial responsibilities preventing me from just walking away (would even have to pay my job back some....), and this offers some comfort knowing I'm not a complete fuck up for losing another pair of wireless headphones and constantly misreading emails at work and problems on tests at school (oh yeah I'm a full time student too, it's awful, I hate every minute of it)

You aren't a fuck up.

Unsolicited advice, but I'd recommend making the time to do an audit of your life and responsibilities. See if there are any opportunities where you can cut back on the demands you have on yourself. Think about accommodations that you can afford for yourself and what you might be able to request from study and work. The more you persevere through burnout, the deeper the burnout gets and the longer it takes to recover.

An ounce of prevention is absolutely worth a pound of cure in this situation.

Kind of just assumed I was an emotionally detached person, especially when experiencing stress in my personal life like fights with loved ones, so again, thanks for making me feel less crazy. Fearing the continuously shrinking lengths of time I can stick around at a job for on my resume too.

It's much easier said than done but try to find a job that you are capable of doing at 50-75% capacity, whether that's psychological and emotional demand or required effort (or similar). If you can do the job at half capacity then you can probably stick at the job through the low points and come out the other end just fine. Be careful about taking on a job where you will be pushed to your limits because if you neeed to reduce your demands to prevent burnout then this means you will need to find areas in your personal life to cut back on demands which often leads to relationship breakdown, social isolation, loss of hobbies and interests, and a general erosion of the things that keep you happy and contribute to your overall wellbeing.

Worst case scenario in this situation is that you can find yourself trapped in a spiral of depression which will cause you to increasingly disengage from the things in your personal life that keep you well while you find yourself putting in extra effort at work to maintain the same level of productivity. No bueno.

On a different note, I am planning to make a post about autistic catatonia here soon because it really isn't talked about very much and it can have a significant impact on autistic people's lives. There are ways of treating and preventing it and the knowledge on this stuff is not widespread. I just need to catch myself on a better day than I've recently been having before I do it because I want to do the topic justice. Keep a lookout for when that post goes up!

[-] [email protected] 4 points 2 years ago

Thanks for the support, it means a lot heart-sickle

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