I tried coming out at 18. It didn't go so well. I told my best friend... who then never spoke to me again. It was embarrassing, we were doing the same training scheme and would bump into each other. He completely ignored me.
I was glad when that year was over, I went off to university and never saw him again. I do wonder about him sometimes, and did a little digging. He appears to have completely vanished.
After that, in my first year at uni I had an awful experience and nailed the closet door shut until I was 26.
I had a seizure that was... misunderstood by the people I was with and my own escape was to clam up completely about it for some years.
I did eventually talk to a therapist who gave me a good explanation, it just took some time.
I'm "out" in that I'm married and will tell people I have a husband, but I'm also not "out out" in that I don't straight up tell people I'm gay unless they ask. My policy has always been that if people really want to know, they can ask. I don't see a need to go around shouting from the rooftops, I mean straight people don't do that, do they (usually)?
Yeah, that is my view too, if straight people don't have to come out why should I? It's no-one's business unless they ask, and even it's at my discretion if it's their business or not