first off, i live in a small apartment. bed, bath, kitchen, living. there's no great place to put it in the first place [it's in the bathroom rn]
every time i see it it feels like a chore. it gives me anxiety, it is a constant chore, endless, does not stop. it will never stop. i cannot finish the chore, ever.
^ and to that point -- if i were to scoop every day or even less frequently, it is disgusting 100% of the time, no matter what. touching it at all is disgusting, putting my face or body near it is disgusting, i don't want to see or interact with it in any way. every time i interact with it, it's a mental barrier to break down. no amount of cutesy names or molded plastic will make it not fucking disgusting.
none of the self cleaning ones really work properly, do they?
it's bad for the cats if you don't maintain it properly
i mean ok whatever. if this is the worst part of their lives, fine, they don't have to work or pay rent or worry.
If you have the money, a litter robot would help your situation IMO. We got one and tbh it'll probably end up paying for itself in the litter saved. The only downside is you'll have to vacuum more as it feels like the tracking is worse with it.
Also, do you have ADHD? I do and I basically never touched our previous litter box and left it up to my girlfriend. I hated it so much, so I totally understand where you're coming from.