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[–] 27 points 21 hours ago (3 children)

I think the points you are making here are ones people miss. The societal perception that women should control sex creates the whole situation. In a way, women are expected to mask their desire for sex everywhere except the bedroom. Sadly, the western world is the progressive group on this. The rules on what women can wear in other countries doubles down on the masking. And we know how well that works for the women...
But have do we move forward on eliminating the source of the issue. I just don't know. The system just treatments the symptoms with laws.

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  • [–] 6 points 12 hours ago*

    It makes women adversaries instead of partners. It emboldens predators and removes people’s agency. Things like rape make certain people feel more powerful.

    The problem is a lack of access to basic resources, resulting in lower education and thus more tribalism. A few of us are amplifying that because we’ve let that be profitable.

    That’s what needs fixing.

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  • [–] 14 points 18 hours ago (1 child)

    I think it's a vicious cycle there more than one creating the whole situation. The expectation that men will be sexually aggressive encourages women to be sexually defensive which includes masking desire which leaves much more room for men to be encouraged to be sexually aggressive.

    The ultimate solution is to work on both at the same time. We need to continue the push for sexual liberation, which includes encouraging women to be open about desires and to make moves, but is ultimately the process of getting men/women to move from an aggressive/defensive approach to sex to both having an egalitarian and cooperative approach

    At least that's my outsiders perspective, I'm a lesbian who never dated men, so grain of salt and whatnot

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  • [–] 5 points 7 hours ago

    It's more or less spot on, from what I've seen, and it makes perfect sense. You don't get a system to last centuries without making it thoroughly self-reinforcing. And it's precisely what makes the outside perspectives valuable: it's hard for a fish to see water unless you take it out of it. Otherwise you just end up turning "boys will be boys" into "yes all men".

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