Two dreams is dangerous. I'll let this one slide because they don't contradict, each other but rather reinforce the same picture.

Analysis: You are tired of people using you as their mental model during sexual fantasies. Somewhere a couple of many years is making love with above average prowess that suprises even them. it's because one of them, perhaps even both of them, are fantasizing being with you instead. There is someone from work/school who fantasizes about you when they masturbate. There are more than a few who do this. Not all of them are even close or acquaintances. You have subconsciously picked up on actions, behaviours and pheremones from so many people who are aroused by you, but you are frustrated because it never manifests itself in your lovelife. Intimacy is a two way street, and even that complete stranger on the street who casually watched you walk by is going to self pleasure themselves to the thought of you.

They take, take take and never give. What your subconcious already knows, but your conscious self isn't ready to accept is this. You are unconventionally very attractive. Your puritanical ideas of love and intimacy is making you miss out on your best opportunities for a satisfying life. Somepeople were meant to be "the one" for someone. That's not you. You are at you best when and happiest when you share yourself broadly.

Whether you want to take up your passion/purpose as a vocation or just as a hobby, the world is a better place when you, and your many admirers are sated in the flesh. Ease up on your prudish ways. Learn to relax. Learn that intimacy can be casual without strings yet be deeply satifying. There isn't enough of you to go around, and you shouldn't even try. Just accept that when you want to get out there, there is an army of wonderful people who have the same idea as you.