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[–] 41 points 1 day ago (3 children)

kinda unfortunately yeah.

swipes suck cuz one judges people based on images and text, bars and partys suck because, cold approach feels so weird, and asking the one woman thats already feels somewhat close feels odd

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  • [–] 1 point 6 hours ago* (1 child)

    Talking to people at bars and parties is a skill you can get better at, though part of getting better at it is learning your way through the awkwardness that happens every time

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  • [–] 36 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

    Real talk though: the whole process fucking sucks.

    People want to find someone, but there are bullshit societal conventions, it takes a shit load of courage and rejection, don't want to make anyone else uncomfortable/feel harassed; and how do you even find a good match? If anything happens to my marriage, then I have no interest in jumping into this process. A friend has been going through this for years including a bad breakup recently after a short relationship...... I got nothing to offer to make it better 🤷‍♂️

    Edit: even worse when you meet someone who is good at this process. "Just act natural, take it easy. It's about body language. You get a feel for who is interested and it's just about being confident"....... Ok, black magic, gotcha.

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