Oh my god I want to scream "ARE YOU FUCKING INSANE!?" at my sibling.
He did "the talk" at me. Of course as all the previous ones it was "You WILL let Michelle violate your boundaries. You WILL let her speak over you and stomp on your personal aspirations."
Oh and don't forget constantly moving the goal posts of "yOu CaN't Be InDePeNdEnT" all of whom are:
-Shit I can already do but the goal posts are constantly moved so "Oh look! You actually can't do this thing!" -"Michelle does all that stuff for you! No, you're not allowed to interrogate as to why that's the case. No, you can't learn and then do these things on your own. How else are you supposed to be absolutely 👌fucked👌 when Michelle finally dies?"
Cue in the bit where my sibling responds with "Well I let Michelle have access to all of my finances and stuff!"
At which point my jaw metaphorically dropped. I probably did that "blinking of disbelief" thing.
Like HOLY SHIT! Dear god that's horrifying!
Helping out with financial stuff is one thing. Letting someone have full unfettered access to your finances is another.
It's like the phone password sharing thing some romantic couples do. That is some full on evil maid level shit!
Relationship goes south, you are utterly fucked.
Relationship could be straight out of a romance novel with Good Soviet Values™ and that's still incredibly creepy and invasive.
All of you are going to the Gulag, and you're learning how to set and enforce healthy boundaries. Fucking hell.
my SO is also a communist and a joint bank account is frankly in my favor cause they make more money and have a better rate. I understand the concept of zero trust but this is someone that basically fixed my shit life and is the most compassionate person I've ever met? And not trusting them reduces our combined wealth over time. I get where you're coming from though.