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Dating Apps Are Dying (time.com)
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[–] 51 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (21 children)

Everything I've watched or read online seems to indicate that dating apps suck for an overwhelming majority of people so good riddance?

What I can't figure out is what comes next. Singles events (at a bar for ex)? Meet up type events where your doing something with other single people? Friends try to set you up with someone?

I've been married for 10 plus years so I have no skin in the game but it's an interesting topic to me.

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  • [–] 22 points 1 month ago (3 children)

    I've been married for a long time too and we met on the greatest dating website of all time: Craigslist Personals.

    You entered your gender, age, a written segment, and an optional photo. No algorithm, no matching. Everything written was searchable and published via RSS. All communication went through email. No app, no subscription, and the only ads were sex workers.

    In the context of this article, it forced the user to engage by reading people's blurbs instead of just swiping for brain chemicals like Candy Crush. You felt like you were talking the other humans and the website was just where you went to meet them.

    If such a site were recreated today, users would want to run the RSS feed through a slop rejection filter.

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  • [–] 7 points 1 month ago (7 children)

    I think the plan is to start approaching people at the grocery store or attending interest based clubs/ meetups, oh and just being single.

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  • [–] 17 points 1 month ago (3 children)

    Oof, approaching in public is stressssful. Interest based clubs/meetups seems like a solid strategy to me.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 month ago

    Absolutely agree! Unfortunately for myself, I live in a medium size city that doesn’t seem to have much of anything going on. About the only interest based activities available that I am not interested in is volunteering at the animal shelter. I don’t think my heart can handle that and I’d end up with 10 more cats lol

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  • [–] 5 points 1 month ago

    From my social circle at least college seems to be by far the most popular place where couples met eachother. Nearly every couple we knew in college is still together almost a decade later. It's followed by Hinge, but we only know two couples who met there. We also know two couples who met on discord, so that's also definitely a good option if you're already into some hobby which isn't heavily dominated by one gender.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 month ago (4 children)

    My strategy is that I gave up on dating. I don't have time for it. Dating apps were the only thing that made sense for me and I haven't been on those in years. Years ago 90% of women's profiles were scammers or OF models. I can't imagine what it's like now. I've already been married, divorced, and have kids. I make decent money, but how am I even supposed to be able to afford to date with pricing for everything being insane? I wouldn't be surprised to find out a lot of people are just not bothering trying and focusing on the rest of life.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago

    I did the same thing, moved to the other end of the country and just focused on myself for a while. Two jobs and a move to the south east and go figure I'm now married again despite swearing it off. I met her at a shitty job. Have a blast being single and doing all the things you forgot you liked.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 month ago (1 child)

    I wonder why someone downvoted your comment.

    Yeah, if I were suddenly single again, I'd be like, eh, I'm good. I know a few single women, so who knows there, but beyond that I'd just be like, yeaahhhhhh I'm just gonna keep living.

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