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I feel like having gays and race mixing is fine, but too much of it feels like a writer's crutch for drama writing. A personal reflection on one aspect of LGBTQIA goes a lot further in my opinion.
this is literally what intersectionality is about. Right-wingers make fun of "black disabled lesbian basket-weavers", but if you do happen to fall into more than one marginalised group the problems aren't just added, they're multiplied.
There's the story of the company who claimed to be perfectly equal rights on race and sex, because they hired equal numbers of men and women, and also a representative portion of Black and White people. But women weren't hired for the factory floor, and Black people weren't allowed in the customer-facing roles, so if you were a Black woman then you weren't getting hired. Likewise many university LGBTQ+ societies have ongoing drama around the fact that they tend to get run by gay men organising events and activities around gay male culture, alienating the entire female membership.
Once you become aware of how common things like this actually are, then comments insinuating you should only be allowed to pick one come across as, let's say not great.
Lol, tf? Are you from the 1950's? "Too much gay stuff" is at least a semi common complaint still, even if unjustified (I'd be more open to "uses gay stuff badly, is flat and stereotypical in it's depiction"), but "too much race mixing" is something I'd think no one but a bona fide segregation advocate would say.
Interracial couples are fine. It doesn't have to be a plot point. Like invincible did it well. Mark is of mixed decent.
~~Check boxed representation like Disney remakes are kind of more what I have in mind.~~
Edit: Actually, checkboxed represention isn't really what I'm exactly going for. Like shows that play up the interracial relationship, when it's not a big deal. But no shows are coming to mind at the moment.
I agree that there's ways to do representation badly, but especially for interracial couples, you'd probably have to go back quite a few decades for examples.
there's no crutch here. you take what you can get or whoever will have you in a post-apocalyptic zombie world.