▲ 1180 ▼ Painful to recover from (thelemmy.club) submitted 2 weeks ago by VetOfTheSeas@discuss.online to c/lemmyshitpost@lemmy.world 171 comments fedilink hide all child comments
[–] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today -4 points 2 weeks ago (2 children) If you love your wife and you are broke, you won't make her your wife. They are just avoiding selfish people who will drag them down. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] h4lf8yte@lemmy.ml 3 points 2 weeks ago (1 child) Ah yes avoid being dragged down by choosing somebody who just drags other people down but not you. So they have a shitty character in general but behave differently toward you. Never heard that this went wrong. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 1 point 2 weeks ago* (1 child) I was reffering to myself, I am a man. I will not be cursing anyone else with myself. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] h4lf8yte@lemmy.ml 4 points 2 weeks ago I'm really sorry for this view on yourself. I don't know how to change this since the default variants that I have been told didn't work out for me either but I am really sure that prioritizing somebody else over yourself or as you said protecting somebody from getting cursed with one self is one of the most harmful ways to see things. It makes it a lot harder to come close to somebody since you are framing the avoidance as something helpful for them permalink fedilink source parent [–] DudleyMason@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 weeks ago User name checks out permalink fedilink source parent
[–] h4lf8yte@lemmy.ml 3 points 2 weeks ago (1 child) Ah yes avoid being dragged down by choosing somebody who just drags other people down but not you. So they have a shitty character in general but behave differently toward you. Never heard that this went wrong. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 1 point 2 weeks ago* (1 child) I was reffering to myself, I am a man. I will not be cursing anyone else with myself. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] h4lf8yte@lemmy.ml 4 points 2 weeks ago I'm really sorry for this view on yourself. I don't know how to change this since the default variants that I have been told didn't work out for me either but I am really sure that prioritizing somebody else over yourself or as you said protecting somebody from getting cursed with one self is one of the most harmful ways to see things. It makes it a lot harder to come close to somebody since you are framing the avoidance as something helpful for them permalink fedilink source parent
[–] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 1 point 2 weeks ago* (1 child) I was reffering to myself, I am a man. I will not be cursing anyone else with myself. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] h4lf8yte@lemmy.ml 4 points 2 weeks ago I'm really sorry for this view on yourself. I don't know how to change this since the default variants that I have been told didn't work out for me either but I am really sure that prioritizing somebody else over yourself or as you said protecting somebody from getting cursed with one self is one of the most harmful ways to see things. It makes it a lot harder to come close to somebody since you are framing the avoidance as something helpful for them permalink fedilink source parent
[–] h4lf8yte@lemmy.ml 4 points 2 weeks ago I'm really sorry for this view on yourself. I don't know how to change this since the default variants that I have been told didn't work out for me either but I am really sure that prioritizing somebody else over yourself or as you said protecting somebody from getting cursed with one self is one of the most harmful ways to see things. It makes it a lot harder to come close to somebody since you are framing the avoidance as something helpful for them permalink fedilink source parent
